Introducing Inok Alrutz: Author of "True Love Lives" Blog About Life, Love & Evolution; Mate of Activist Quinn Eaker
Greetings and Salutations Steemians! I go by the name Inok. It is a name given to me by a Korean mother whom I have never met, in a language I don’t speak. Yet I love this name, and I love the woman who birthed me and sent me off in the hands of destiny. I love the life I now live because of her choice.
I, like anyone, have a range of certain special talents and abilities, and of course a nice little set of faults and flaws too. I could tell you all about who I think I am, recall my qualities and quirks, but right now that doesn’t actually seem relevant. The thing about me that seems most important and relevant to YOU right now is that I have a unique predisposition for keeping it REAL and telling it OUT LOUD. Somehow, unlike most other people, I feel pretty much just fine and dandy about sharing deep personal truths about myself and my life, even the ones that are really intimate, dark or make me look bad.
I am not sure why or how I am like this, but it has come to my awareness that this quality is pretty unique and that I have the opportunity to use this special power of mine to help others. How does it help? I am not entirely sure about that either. I think people hide so much of themselves from the outside world, from their intimate relations, and even from themselves. And in doing all of this hiding, they are actually getting very stuck in whatever it is that they are afraid to face. They get stuck in the negative emotions of blame, guilt, shame, anger, jealousy, and so on, mostly because they find it too hard to really face it. Well, I am willing to face it, and I am willing to do it in front of you so you can see how it isn’t so bad, and it is well worth all the effort in the end.
I have a blog called TrueLoveLives.us, which for me is more like an online journal that I make public. In it I share about my extraordinary life in a way that for me feels really raw and explicit. I share the truth from my point of view, including lots of little juicy details, and reflections on what I was really thinking and feeling. I acknowledge and talk about the many layers of my conscious and unconscious motivations, which most people dare not admit aloud, sometimes not even to themselves. I give readers a very candid and intimate glimpse of my life and perspective on the things that matter most to me- my relationships with myself, my mate, my kids, my community, and then with everyone else.
In truth, I write mostly for myself. I started the blog as a form of public accountability to assist my own process of conscious evolution. Writing helps me to be real and honest with where I really am at within myself, and often there is some magic in the honesty and sharing that holds the key to shifting and upgrading. As the mother of 3 young children, the regularity of my entries is spotty at best. When I do write, it is because it feels so important that I MUST.
I am not particularly an expert about much at all. I am not claiming to have “answers” per se, nor asserting that I am “better” than you, nor that anyone else should necessarily be like me. Simply, I have received quite a bit of feedback from others who can really relate to these experiences, and who feel better about themselves, just by knowing that they are not alone. And for this reason, I feel so deeply fulfilled in sharing with anyone who benefits in whatever way they do.
In addition to having a uniquely open personality, I also have a very unusual life. To me and to many whom I meet, my everyday life is nothing short of extraordinary. I have most decidedly taken the path less traveled by, and it has indeed made all the difference.
I am the mate of a visionary rebel humanitarian named Quinn Eaker. Think Captain Jack Sparrow meets Tyler Durden meets Ghandi and/or Jesus meets Pai Mei (the master from Kill Bill). Quite the paradox he is, ever changing and beyond fascinating.
We fell in love at first sight over 6 years ago and we have been together ever since. We have produced three beautiful and amazing children, two girls aged 3 and 5, and a 7 month old baby boy.
When we are not traveling the USA or the world, we live on 3 and a half acres in Arlington Texas known as the Garden of Eden EcoVillage. My mate was gifted that property from his former lover, (who is 23 years his senior and still lives with us,) for the purpose of the fulfillment of his dream. He is a humanitarian at heart and wishes to serve and uplift as much of the world as possible. The small intentional community is founded on the values of ecological sustainability and conscious evolution, with personal freedom being another high priority.
The other community members living here include about a dozen people, give or take, plus two dogs and at least a dozen cats. I lost count of the cats. Each person is so unique and out of the box, each adding their own bit of spice to the pot. The community stew is ever changing in flavor, as there is almost always someone either coming or going. About once a year, more or less, even I myself consider leaving. So far, thanks to my patient and adaptable mate, I always change my mind, reopen my heart, and stay to play another day.
I could go on and on about my mate, our relationship, our children, our community, our life, and at some point I likely will. For now, I shall include only this super simplified snapshot of the beings called Inok and Quinn and the life of True Love that we share.
Through my writing I offer the opportunity for you to read about a bold and revolutionary lifestyle. Simultaneously I offer a unique perspective on my version of experiences that are essentially common to us all.
I hope you will find enjoyment and enrichment in reading about ways of living and being that are unusual and even strange to you, such as living in community, living sustainably, fighting the oppressive thumb of the Man, and raising children that are wild and free.
I hope you will find equal fulfillment in reading about the commonalities we all share, like being in love, being parents, being hurt and insecure, being brave, seeking change, failing and getting back up again.
I hope for us all to fall in Love.
With Love, Inok