RE: How to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think
It's the fear of being abandoned, alone and ultimately dying. (Please stay with this comment for a moment and I'll explain)...
At some point in our childhood we cried for our mothers to come to us and, for whatever reason (maybe she was in the bathroom) she didn't come, so we cried louder, because maybe she didn't hear us, but still... she didn't come. Now we are alone and we can't survive.
As very young children, we instinctively know that our entire survival is based on our mothers, and sometimes our fathers, taking care of us.
When we get a glimpse of the fact that we're not always in control of this and could we lose that control.... we have our first experience with very, very traumatic fear of rejection and yes --------> death.
People impose the trends as a source of power and control. /
People conform to the trends out of the very, very real FEAR of being abandoned, which - through their own neuron-network in their brain - they have subconsciously associated with death.
In other words - Being alone and rejected by the people imposing the trends is subconsciously associated with death.
@zero21mill thanks for the additional input. Yes, how we perceive now is based on the experiences we have in childhood. If we want to change how we perceive things we need to heal those fears and replaced it. If we associate rejection to fear then we can learn to associate rejection to something better is coming.
Tony Robbins teaches people to associate the a certain things with something to create the desired result. If we are on a diet but we are craving for an ice cream, what should we do? To stop craving for an ice cream you need to associate ice cream with body fats, vomit or any disgusting thing you could ever think and associate it with the things you don't like. Surely, in no time, you will no longer crave for an ice cream.
So we should start associating our fear of rejection to you are meant for something better.
Right.
Most very, very successful people did things their own way, so you can associate it with success.
The problem is: the way you think is like a well-traveled path through a forest. - It's just plain easier for people to take that path. It's a life-long habit in our neuron network developing since we were in the womb.
The older you get the harder these associations are to break and everything is associated to something else.
Tony is a very wise man. I met him once in Atlanta.
Yes, yes. It's very hard. Winning against myself is the hardest battle I ever been. Won the few stages already but there's more to go. It was playing Call of Duty where there are main series. I successfully completed the mission from call of duty 1-4 until modern warfare 2 but I still need to complete Black Ops to WWII. 😂😂😂 Sorry, not good at explaining. But yeah. 😊😊😊