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RE: Setting up a new fish tank: My son's latest obsession. :D (Meet CandyCane, Squishington, Todd, and the Shadow Clan!)
He's a really good psych other than that, we just present problems for him XD (or opportunities to come up with new ideas depending on how you want to look at things I guess? :D)
Yeh that's pretty much my thoughts as well but seems people simpy fixate on "if you don't force them to do things they don't want to do they will be spoilt and entitled thinking they should never have to do anything that they don't want to do and will refuse" and I'm not sure how that's a bad thing in some cases? I guess I'm just ignorant and naive ;D
I dont know, but I have tried both ways, and not forcing things just works better all around. My oldest is 15 now, and he is as smart as a whip, so speaking long term, it works. I think it's important to teach children how to think, not what to think. I always tell the kids, if they have a problem with what I am asking them to do, then respectfully ask me to explain it to them. We can talk about it, and I also LISTEN to their concerns. Sometimes they have a valid point, and Ill rethink what Im asking of them, and sometimes they see that I have a valid point, and they go ahead and do the thing. I think it basically boils down to just treating them like fellow people, not underlings. ;)