Better Living — Psychological Link Between Bullying and Personal Pain
I have always felt that there is no excuse for bullying!
We often fall back on thinking that bullying is something that just happens in grade school, and then people are "over it," but the truth is that bullying exists among adults in pretty much all walks of life.
As a minister and counselor, I often run into situations with clients where the root of some major dilemma can be traced back to a situation where bullying lies at the heart of the matter.
Adults tend to be a little "sneakier" about their bullying than children... taking subtle and passive-aggressive stabs at each other, intending to hurt someone.
Recently, a client of mine was shamed for their love of plush stuffed animals. In this particular case, not just "any" stuffed animal, but a specific character that brings joy and wisdom through comfort in an otherwise lonely life.
I find it to be a vile and mean thing to make fun of someone for their tender respite in this world. Bullying comes in many forms, it's not just a schoolyard hiccup when we are children.
In the words of inspirational author Gary Zukav:
"When you seek to dominate another you dominate no one but disempower yourself."
On the topic of loving one's stuffed animals, I recently read a wonderful article and I'll quote here a portion of it:
"Humans are social creatures, and we suffer without the company of others. While stuffed animals cannot completely replace the social role that other humans play in our lives, they can help ease feelings of loneliness and alienation, helping us cope with the interconnected and lonely modern world"
The fluffy creatures who currently occupy the couch in my office
And given the world in which we live, we can use all the help we can find... even if it comes from a fluffy pink Unicorn!
Bullying typically isn't the result of someone feeling powerful and dominant, but someone feeling fearful and in a lot of personal pain. Thus having some compassion — in spite of what we may be experiencing — is important when approaching a situation that involves bullying.
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