Wishing you a wonderful New Year!
And your life will not be yours this year either. Not completely. If you're honest, you probably don't want it to be. You probably don't need more time to yourself either. But: in "your" time, you would like to have a goal.
Your ambitions go far beyond looking after the children and maintaining the house. So choose a goal that you enjoy, that seems meaningful and satisfying and get started!
I know it's not that easy. But it's not that difficult either ;-))
Am I allowed to disagree? I don't think I've disagreed with you before 🤣
I've got too many goals - they're often simple... one of them involves spending some time coding, working on the Steemit interface. Another is simply playing the piano every now and again (which I can do for a few seconds before little fingers want to mash the keys). I don't even dare to get my violin out (although I'm playing a teeny. tiny little one right now).
I certainly feel that I don't have enough "me time" to achieve any of my goals. My day starts when I'm woken up and the boys don't go to sleep until 8pm (ish)... there's little rest in between (unless I become willing to return to the aura of a student house) and I'm never alone. Any attempts to come and sit as I am now (at just after 10pm when I should be in bed) are disturbed by little people coming and poking keys and buttons)... I know that I'm making excuses but they're real until the boys are older and can entertain themselves / each other without them trying to hospitalise each other / themselves.
It is... it really is 🙂
Yes... they really do 🙂
Of course you are allowed to do all what you want (even to disagree with me ;-))
But... It could be that we're talking at cross purposes. Or we're both somehow right ;-))
The coding, the Steem, the piano and the violin are your interests that are not getting enough attention right now. But they can obviously be put in the corner without resistance. I think you need something stronger than duty and responsibility - or at least equivalent. And then you have a basis for negotiating a different division of responsibilities at home, professional development and some inner satisfaction.
Incidentally, it's impossible for me to argue with you; a man who plays the piano and violin belongs on a pedestal (to be worshipped ;-)))
I think that must be it 😉
Yes. This is good. It's difficult as the-mrs-gorilla comes home from work, has dinner and then we're pretty much at bed time - which we share because they won't settle without "supervision". Then it's late and we either spend a little time together or do our own thing. Tricky... but not impossible!