I have a few - perhaps wise - words for you or yours (which unfortunately don't make it any easier or better...): these are bad parenting moments. And you can't prevent them! You look after your little ones and protect them. You do everything you can. And all this in the knowledge that there is no guarantee, no absolute security. You are aware that illnesses and injuries, sorrow and anger are part of life. That they are part of growing up. That it is your job to accompany them - you are there! You help and straighten things out and take care of them. You are the one with the overview - but not the Wizard of Oz ;-))
You can't exclude such accidents, you can't prevent them. If you try, you're not doing the kids any favours!
Actually, you know all this yourself, right? Please don't reproach yourself!
Two very personal and practical tips: Teach your children to fall! I mean it! Martial arts trainers offer fall schools, even for very young children: You learn to roll and fall in a way that avoids injury. This is helpful in so many situations... Priceless! And: watch your scarecrow a bit - is it simply childish exuberance, a cry for attention or an adjustment disorder? Don't drive yourself crazy, but allow for reflection....
The idea of them learning to fail is one that a friend of mine said to me some time ago... children need to learn to fail, it's your job to help them to fall safely.
Too many parents protect their children to the point at which the child relies upon their parents for everything. A problem at school - parents intervene. A bad grade - parents intervene. Then when the child finally goes out to work, it's a shock... their parents can't intervene. I don't want that to be us.
Wasn't the Wizard of Oz a fraud? I'm more Dorothy... trying to help them along the way 😉
My little scarecrow has been doing martial arts for a couple of years due to him also being the Lion from the same movie... the-baby/toddler will start when he's 3 - that's the youngest that they accept. the-baby's no lion - he's fearless!
Of the 3, I think it's simply childish exuberance... I've seen children who cry for attention and they're very different to our scarecrow. Especially when their parents still ignore the bad behaviour... it's always easier to parent other people's children 😂
We know that parenting's hard. It becomes all consuming so when it goes wrong, it's difficult to process. Especially when in the back of my mind, I still see the effects on that 17 year old boy back in 1997.
You grow with your responsibility - that's for sure! And your kids are very lucky... ;-))