RE: Respect their choices but how?
Of course, I'm not a mother)) Fathers and mothers have different stories with children.
But I proceed from the fact that all life is a continuous game with many roles. The task of parents (in my opinion) is to teach the child to play by the rules and give different roles a try. But at the same time to protect from destructive roles.
If the child trusts you, then half the work has already been done)) You're a good mother.
By the way, sometimes you can allow your child to try to break the rules, for the sake of completeness of feeling and life experience (of course, under your control :)
I know of one not very serious example... the father found his son smoking a cigarette... he did not scold and punish him, he took out a pack and let him smoke several cigarettes in a row... It's not the most humane way, but a person has developed a persistent aversion to smoking.
You have a beautiful daughter and you're going to be fine. I believe in it))
Thank you so much for your remarks. It's heart-warming to see so many people connecting with these posts of mine. I'm really lucky to have found you people with these profound visions.
Advice Noted! :)