City or nature?
I have a friend Alexey. I've known him for over 30 years. But now we rarely see each other.
He was born and grew up in a small village where, probably, all people know each other. And he was always oppressed by the feeling that everyone knew him. After graduating from the Polytechnic Institute, I invited him to live and work in the same city with me, in which I still live. But Alexey said that he wants to live in a city where no one will know him and he will not greet familiar people when meeting on the street.
When he came to visit me from a big city, he said that he was suffocating from the abundance of fresh air and he lacked the smell of car exhaust gases. But it seems to me that he liked to come to visit us, because living alone is still very bad.
Our daughter was born 14 years ago. For 14 years now. At that time we had a small apartment and we could not often receive guests, especially so that they spent the night with us. That's when Alexey stopped coming to visit us. In the movie "Brother" there is a good phrase - "the city is a terrible force that feeds on the energy of people." Something similar happened to my friend. He's completely withdrawn. He doesn't want to work anywhere, he stopped striving for some goal, gradually degraded and stopped communicating with us.
It's such a sad story.
But it's even sadder that I'm worried about my nephew - my cousin's son. He doesn't like nature either. As he even said that he would be glad if the entire territory around the house in which he lives was rolled up with asphalt and large houses were built and that there was no free land with trees. Where did he get such thoughts from? His father grew up in the woods. He taught me to hunt and live in the forest. But it turns out that he could not instill a love of nature in his son.
My daughter now lives in this house on the 25th floor. I am only glad that she and her husband love to be in the bosom of nature and they have a goal - to build their own house. My daughter moved into this house a week ago. Yesterday, my son-in-law and I went to their former place of residence, walked along the embankment, where he visited every morning and I saw in his eyes the disappointment that they had to change their place of residence.
My wife and I have found a compromise - to live on the outskirts of a small town near the regional center. We live practically in nature. We have a river nearby, we don't need to go anywhere to rest from the hustle and bustle. On the contrary, we sometimes go to "relax" in the city.
But there is a small problem - lack of free time to go fishing. Only this upsets me in the last 2 years.
Friends, what kind of landscape do you want to observe in your life? Tall houses or natural expanses? Or what kind of compromise could you find for yourself? I like to read articles about the corners of nature in a big city and, of course, about the natural expanses.
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As I wrote earlier: I actually belong where there are no other people. I don't need any infrastructure and instead I need mountains, forests, animals... Well, I've been with a man in Berlin for five years. More contrast is not possible. It does me no good...
Wie ich schon früher schrieb: ich gehöre eigentlich dorthin, wo keine anderen Menschen sind. Ich brauche keine Infrastruktur und dafür Berge, Wälder, Tiere... Nun ja: seit 5 Jahren bin ich mit einem Mann in Berlin zusammen. Mehr Kontrast geht nicht. Es tut mir nicht gut...
When I was young, I thought that at the age of 40 I would go to live in the wild. But at the age of 39, I had another daughter and my wife and I built a new house. We almost live in the wild. But we didn't think then that life would build such zigzags.
I respect the opinion and the way of life of each person, but I am sure that loneliness does not carry anything when you look for it every day, I think we all deserve good companies where you can talk and laugh or cry the moments you spend in your life, I love nature, I want to live fully in it, but I must be in the city for the education of my daughters, I think we can make a balance, we must all be where we feel good, we must not stop dreaming and enjoying.
Cheers!
Yes, we have to think about children and their education.
Therefore, starting this year, the youngest daughter will study at the regional center in a school with an increased study of mathematics and physics. We will change our lifestyle. We rented an apartment for our daughter in the regional center. My wife and I will take turns living there with daughter