Overcoming Rejection (Psychological View). Part 2

A few days ago, we took the first part of the tips to overcome rejection. We stated the fact that depression, low morale, substance abuse and even suicide ideation can stem from rejection, according to this article. We also saw how to manage the situation in order not to crack under it. Here, we will look at the concluding part of the ways to live above rejection.

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In the first post, we saw the need to acknowledge the event that led to the rejection, then looking at the bright side of life. But after doing all these, what other steps do you need to take?

1. Do not blame yourself for the event that led to the rejection

Dwelling long in the state of constantly blaming yourself will make it get worse. You do not heal a wound by constantly revisiting the wounded area. Learn to treat yourself with some level of compassion. Do not always think "well, it happened because of my stupidity". Negative thoughts will always brood negative actions and will lead to negative attitude. This is why some people that have suffered rejection tend to pick up some nasty attitude because they may still see the person that rejected them in virtually everyone.

Sometimes, to be able to survive, you just need to drown that inner feeling of self-criticism. Even if you were rejected by someone you have put all you hopes on, wrapping your head in sorrow will only succeed in keeping you on the floor. Learn to pick up the fragments of your life and make something wonderful out of it. Just like it has been asked severally; when life throws eggs at you, what do you do? Now, the choice is yours to either cry over the broken egg or pick the remaining and make some delicious omelette.

2. Talk to someone you can trust

A point may come when you need to let out what's on you mind, so that you will not implode from within. It may be a trusted friend, a family member or even a psychologist or therapist. The power of social interaction can never be overemphasize. This is so needful because you will tend to learn from others that have had similar experiences and you will apply the same principle they did and will be sure to get similar results as they did.

People that are normally hit worst by the effects of rejection are people that are introverted inwards. They tend to bottle up more than they can bear. It does not mean you are weak if you let others know what your experiences have been. Even if they may not have immediate or remote solution to it, you will be glad you did. Though, you should be cautious who you share your experiences with.

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3. Look for physical and social activities to engage in

The more you keep yourself busy with other activities, the more you place less emphasis on the past bad experiences you had. You can start up a sporting activity and other engagements with others. In the midst of these engagements, you will build up your self-confidence and self-worth.

Any event that succeeds to cut you off from interacting with others has succeeded in charting a course of depression for you. This is why you should not allow yourself to bow your head down over rejection. The world hasn't rejected you, and there are others that are willing to accept you. You also need to keep company where you are celebrated and not where you are tolerated.

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