Building Good Friendships
Most people do not have much difficulty when it comes to getting new friends but the question that normally follows suit is "how well do you retain the friends you make?" Obviously, many things may make people to be acquainted with you but for you to retain them as friends, your attitude will come into play here. Not just your attitude, your character has a part to play too, your disposition and of course, the sacrifices you are willing to makes.
It is worthy to note that friendship is not an avenue to exploit one party or where only one party benefits. In a true friendship, each one makes sacrifices and it is built on mutualism: where everyone has each other's back. If your friendship is not adding positively to your life, do not think that it is not adding negatively to you. Of course you will agree with me that there is no vacuum between positive and negative, you have to be on one side.
However, to be able to get a good friend, you should know that you have to prove yourself to be a good friend. As you have reservations with choosing friends, so also others have the same reservations. The qualities you want in a friend, you have to fully exhibit the same too, just like this popular statement has it that:
Birds that have the same feathers will fly together.
There is a reason why bees do not follow after bitter things but sweet things, and house-flies do not perch around a food that is very hot. The reason is that the environment is not conducive. Your life must be friendly, conducive and accommodating before friends can hang around you. So watch your attitude. If you find yourself constantly losing friends, it is not time to blame your friends for leaving but you have to ask yourself why they left. You might just be the reason.
In friendship, let your main motive not be what to gain instantly from your friends or the sacrifices you want the other person to make for you but always think of what to contribute and what to bring to the table. When they see that you can go all out for them, they will not hesitate in going all out for you too. The truth is, your intentions are louder than you think. So if your intentions are to parasitize on your friends, they will know and they will take a walk.
If after a long while of friendship and they cannot point out to something evidential and substantial that you have done for them, then you have to ask yourself if you have been a good friend. A good friend is not just the person that comes to celebrate with you but the person that will still stick around even when the going seems a bit tough.
The major things that happen to people have a direct relationship with the kind of friends and acquaintances they keep. Believe me, there is no how you can play around the rain and not have your clothes being wet. Same way you cannot stay around fire and not become warm. Similarly, when you stay around a particular company, you will tend to imbibe their attitude.
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Hello @samminator!
A true friendship lasts forever, even if the years go by the affection will always be the same. Friends are like brothers and sisters and you do everything you can for them and you are there for them through thick and thin. Very thoughtful post, greetings!
I absolutely agree with here, true friendship is like the family we choose. Thanks for the nice comment buddy
The socialization of the human being is something that may or may not be easy for many, but I consider that if it is something hard to make friends, making good friends is a work of many years because it is that consolidation that gives time what makes a friendship strong and true.
beautiful post
thank you for sharing
Yes, it requires work to make good friends and we have to value then so as to retain them. Thanks a lot buddy
Greetings, @samminator.
A true friendship is not destroyed over time.
Many times we come to think that we have lost our friends because years have passed and we have not seen or talked to them again, but a chance meeting will awaken all those old feelings and we will realize that the friendship is still alive.
As you say, friendship cannot go one way, it is reciprocal.
It is not about choosing a person to benefit from them, they are feelings of brotherhood that are born with constant interaction and thus we can develop a strong bond.
If a friendship depends on the economic factor to survive, then it is not a true friendship. It is better to call things by name and speak of a society or association.
Nicely said. The passage of time does not affect a true friendship. I have learnt something new from your comment. Thanks buddy
I totally agree, dear friend.
Friendship is a real treasure that we must value extremely.
Most friends are attached to you because of what they are gaining from you, and if you complain about what you notice it's will look as if your been proud, please if you have friends like that try by all means to avoid them especially when they didn't add value to your life instead they are affecting you negatively.
I like all the point you pointed out on you post and is very clear, thank for sharing.
Exactly, friendship is not about only what to gain from the other party. Thanks for dropping by buddy
It is good to have friends but being with good people is matter most.
Thanks for sharing
That's correct. It is always good to associate yourself with good people. Thanks buddy
Having a good friendship may affect various life aspects, but also thinking about being a good friend for others so you can be a positive part of their life is very important. Finding a balance between those 2 is really crucial.
Friends are those who get your back anytime, and who are willing to sacrifice whatever for you, and for sure you have to be like that too for this kind of friends because I believe they are rare these days.
Nice read! Thanks for sharing.
I love the last paragraph of your comment and I appreciate it a lot. Many thanks buddy
Good friendships are hard to come by but when you manage to find a person you can trust and who shares your interests it is easy to make a friendship, and if there is also a mutual concern for your well being that friendship can be long lasting. Very good reflection friend, greetings!
True friendships are difficult to achieve, I have so few that I have more than enough fingers on my hand, but it is a passing of time, experiences and experiences.
thanks for the post
Hello @samminator I can only say that I have been very fortunate in life to have few but good friends who over the years became my family, I think it is worth investing in cultivating friends, everyone wins ... greetings!