It's a beautiful title and so I came here...because I felt that sumed a fact of life well...

I am best example. I was and still am very timid and immature... involves too managing impulses, emotions, anger and some choices.

Ultimately, its about achieving balancing and enjoying what you got and improving yourself slowly.

My life has been very very over protected, still am, so when I was to get married(I did not) years ago, loads of people saw my immaturity but some saw beyond it (maturity at base level)... it turned out my break up with fiance(name sake fiancee) happened due to his immaturity of jumping to conclusions and not understanding me...

So, it depends, I do act very maturely at times, because I am good at philosophies and can see things over all, rather than just surface... btw girls are more emotionally mature than boys...

It's also the environment, my parents have been emotionally immature and anxiously ... like my dad jumps to conclusions, has been over protective and reactive and used to give sharp, sick and male chauvinist comments (with that king ego of his) all my life and when pointed out won't agree...

So, helplessness... my bro too... and I got so much critisisms from all... not one person respect you, you don't have a friend in the world, my wife if she knows about you don't come 10 feet near you... etc, etc...

shrugs... that's my toxic environment... now I am old, 38 years , I have handled and managed some difficult situations including taking care of my dad during covid all alone, that these people see that I too have some level of maturity and courage..

Because, my dad never listened to anything I said all my life and I was right like 75% of the time...(I point that out but he won't see it)

You never know...mind is very indepth... still I can't advice my maid on her problems with son (can only hear her out), she's super mature although not educated and from a village, married off very early...so it depends...

I have been put in best of the schools, but it ruined me , I got only negative experiences there, including point outs by teachers that I don't have friends in front of the entire class. I felt I already went through lot of insults then...shrugs...

Yes, experiences , exposure, relationships and positivity and adventure, really makes you sharper...

Anyway, I have gone through so much of late... that impulses have subdued, I learnt to enjoy peace and tranquility and be patient and calm and trying to forgive to free my self of pain...

but past scars remains... I was ragged in school, and children stayed away from me, no one will sit near me and I really did not make friends and I have been a loner.

Now, I want to be free from pressures of relationship and relax which I am doing... rather than forcing myself into relationships that won't work...

I do have lots of dog friends though they really help too... had cat friends too earlier...

Varies... emotional maturity can only be got through life experiences... anyway.

Reading books and talking to others helps a lot...different perpectives and then you learn things practically.. for me practical quotient is very less... I still am anxious but do things slowly and correctly and precisesly one stap at a time.

Gives confidence...anyway... I still feel I don't deserve to be loved and I stay away from people and relationships(including my family, just consider they will never love you for what you are), although at times I have to go, because some people do actually care and see me in a differnt way and I am free with them, but they are very very few. anyway...

I don't know if its because it's they love which blinds them to my faults or they see something else... interesting na,,,anyway