Love is never synonymous of pain.
Love is never synonymous of pain.
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Love is never synonymous with pain, is part of the writings that for more than ten years I have been writing for the defense of women to a life free of violence, I am an activist in my country and defender of human rights, women, girls, adolescents, adults and seniors, children, animals, nature, in short, every being that inhabits the planet. Love is never synonymous with pain is born from all the conversations I have with victims of gender violence where they say they endured everything for love.
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I listen to them carefully, without judging or stigmatizing and once I have finished explaining why they have endured years of abuse or, in the worst cases, I listen to the mothers, daughters and sons, in short, to the relatives of the victims of femicide. I begin to expose my own idea of love, that which has been formed from the philosophy of love that I found in my readings in Buddhist and Hindu texts, in the bible, in documents of people who loved and understood that love is never synonymous with pain.
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If we look closely at our relationships and the way we connect to each other, it seems that in most cases it is not love that inspires us. When you love, you understand that differences are an opportunity to recognize your strengths and weaknesses, that differences are those characteristics that make us unique. Love is respect, appreciation, recognition and care, when you love there is good treatment, because love is kind.
Love is a wrong answer, when people do not understand and have not understood that love does not hurt. To accept an abusive relationship for love, is not to love oneself. The keys to understand that love never hurts, for me are:
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Love is a wonderful feeling, which makes us better people by ourselves and for ourselves.
Love begins at the moment of awakening to life, when you create that affective relationship where you learn to relate to the greatness of your own existence. The writer and Nobel Prize winner Gabriel García Márquez said "Human beings are not born forever the day their mothers give birth to them, but life forces them to give birth to themselves over and over again". If we think about it we ourselves have discovered through love who we really are, because after a difficult situation we discover our strengths.
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To love is to always look for well-being. It is to find the solution to the problems and eventualities of everyday life as a couple, family, friends and always in harmony.
To love is expressed in care, in words of esteem, in the search for a healthy relationship for both parties.
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Love gives life, it never takes it away.
Love is never synonymous with pain. If it hurts you, humiliates you, robs you of life it is not love.
I hope this post serves to make us think about what love really is and if we doubt what happens in our life, or in the life of someone we appreciate, we can wake up to love.
So beautifully expressed. I think so many get caught in that need to be loved that we can mistake abusive attention for love and rationalize that it is better than no attention at all. Love is sacrificial and about the other not ones self and therefore it can't be pain. Keep spreading the healthy message and strengthen those who are betrayed by their own loneliness and brokenness to accept less than they deserve for in compromising in their relationships, and surrogating pain for true love, they slowly erode their own self worth and personal view of their value and this can be hard to recover.
Yes, I believe that there are many people who have confused the need for companionship with love and therefore must mistakenly accept everything, especially abusive relationships. Love is a sublime feeling that does no harm and generates life. Thank you for sharing.
greetings @emimoron
For some people if it is synonymous with bitterness for bad decisions but no doubt that when that does not happen is the most wonderful thing in the world and pleasant
Bad decisions and mistakes are not the fault of love. This is a feeling, it is us who rarely stop to think a little about what we really want for our life. Thank you for reading my article, I appreciate your comments and hearing from you. Best regards to your loved ones.
It is unfortunate that people choose to stick with different levels of pain in the name of love, if only there is a greater level of awareness that makes people see that they are worth more than the pain they endure, just if there was a greater level of self-esteem, it is good to know that people like you with a big heart are standing up to create this much needed awareness.
Hello, nice to greet you. You are absolutely right, there are people who in the name of love justify situations and facts that have nothing to do with that. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
You are so right, love cannot under any circumstances be a synonym or an excuse for pain. I think there are many people who live wrong in this regard, one thing is the acceptance of an abusive relationship for the ignorance of true love and another that love is the reason to endure the damage. Very good article.