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RE: Open Happiness (Week 2): Touching lives through Selfless Giving! (100% Powered up)
Have you ever helped someone and later regretted helping them. Why?
Have you ever helped someone and later regretted helping them. Why?
I have not regreted any help I offered someone, because while rendering my help, I don't expect anything in return
You are very right. We don't need to expect something in return
Yes ma, I think when we render a help, we shouldn't expect anything in return.
Thank you for responding. But i think she meant a situation where you helped someone and you agreed that the person will pay back. For example if someone borrowed your property or you gave a loan
Well, we all have different experiences in life. It is very ugly to lend out money and the person refuse to pay back especially if he has the means
Yes ma, it's usually a bad one
Oh
Ok.
I never thought of that.
Well, Yes. I once helped a friend with some loan. He was in a critical condition and needed an urgent 10, 000 naira. He came to me and I was really bouyant. I gave him the money to solve his problem. After many moments, he refused to pay. he had the money because he was paid his salary. But he refused to pay and it dragged on for about 2 years. I later stopped asking him about it. I almost regretted helping him. But i have not stopped helping people ever since then?
Sorry about your experience. It can make one to change from helping others. But will you allow that experience to harden your mind from others
No. I know that people are different. There are grateful people and there are ingrates. But I do not allow the ingrates to discourage me from helping anyone.
Very true
It can really be painful
That's a positive mindset sir.
A typical person could have resolved never to help again with his finances
Good evening ma'am 😊
I don't have such experience...if I do, I can't remember clearly
So, I'll just check other comments
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What if someone took your thing and spoiled it, or refused to get it back to you. Have you had that Experience?
Which thing?🧐
🤣🤣 Sir, the truth is .......I've forgotten most of these things sef
But I have had that experience and I know it's just talk talk that I did and left the thing😊
Have you lent someone money and the person refused to pay?
Me that don't have money 😅
Which money I'm I lending again?
Well, that would be while I was in school and if course, na small shikini money.....I leave it for the person
Good evening @ngoenyi
I have never regret helping someone before, because when I decide to help anybody, I don't attach or expect anything in return.
Welcome @ceendy20. What if someone borrowed something from you and it was agreed that it will be returned at a time. But the person failed and repeatedly showed that they didnt value the help. Have you had that experience?
No sir,I can't remember having such experience. Infact I hardly loan out money to people because of this issue of not paying back, I would rather help than lend
This is a very good one. That is the type of giving that is encouraged
Yes I have, in fact i have a very recent experience of this and its not funny at all, am just recovering of it. Why? Because the person i helped or have been helping took my good deed for granted and not just that, used it against me to accuse me of something i didn't do..so i feel like am regretting my good deeds.
Sorry about your ugly experience. It is not funny at all. But will you cease from helping others?
No i wont..
This is really a sad experience. Did they later discover that the accusation was wrong. Is the person a friend or family member?
A friend, well yes it was discovered a wrong accusation
But she has spoilt your name in the first place. Have you forgiven her? Will you help her again?
Hmm the hurt was deep but i have forgiven..And if she needs my help i will not hesitate to help
Wow.... this is a demonstration of true forgiveness and letting go.
People get disappointed at others they rendered help to, because they were expecting something in return or a gratitude. But when you help without expecting a reciprocating offer, you wouldn't be disappointed.
Thanks for your input. But what is you lent someone money, and the person refused to pay?
That's a bad one. Except the person doesn't have a means of paying back. But if he does, it's very bad.
I did a photo coverage for a guy in PH. After many months he didn't guy me the remaining balance to enable me complete the work. The guy begged me that he don't have money because he over spent during the wedding preparation. Of truth he spent much. He hired two guys from Abuja to come and make the bride up. Out of concern for him because the wife was worrying him to get the wedding pictures, I produce it and delivered it to him. Up till now he is still holding me more 8k and this has taken more than 7 years. I deleted his number so that I will not be calling him, after I made several attempt to get back the money. The guy lives in PH with 2 cars and the wife was working with oil company then. For me they close their own way not that of others. There are still good people who always comply with agreement
Interesante está interacción y me gusta y quiero compartir algo vivido, con respecto a la pregunta que hace mi amiga @ngoenyi. En una oportunidad decidí ayudar a una persona y esa persona después de yo apoyarle, tuvo una actitud no agradable y fue como muy egoísta y entendí que siempre hay que dar lo mejor sin esperar un gesto de agradecimiento, porque nosotros decidimos ayudar y realmente es mejor dar que recibir, y Nosotroso tenemos que tomar en cuenta que los demás no tendrán las misma intenciones.
That is right my dear friend. Sorry about your ugly experience. Giving brings happiness when we don't expect anything in return. Moreover, we don't expect everyone to behave like us.
Así es amiga @ngoenyi es mejor dar que recibir, además nosotros somos responsables de las cosas que hacemos. Nada es obligado lo hacemos y no deberíamos quejarnos.