ProWritersHub (W4) || Topic 1: How Traditional Marriage is performed in my Hometown, City or Community|| by @edidiongeffiong
INTRODUCTION
Hello everyone, my topic for today in ProWritingHub contest is about Traditional marriage.
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STEPS ON HOW TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE IS PERFORM IN MY HOMETOWN
Below are the steps on how traditional marriage is perform in my hometown;
KNOWING THE HOUSE: The husband to be will visit the wife's family with a kola nut and some drinks, then he will state his intentions to marry the girl.
If the family of the girl accept the proposal, then another meeting will be arranged.KNOCKING OF DOOR: In these second meeting with the bride's family, the man will show the family that he is fully ready to marry the bride
SENDING GIFT TO THE BRIDE'S FAMILY: These is a way of compensating the bride's family by the family of the groom for accepting to give their child out for marriage.
TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE: It is the most important part, these is when the groom and the bride will be join together in the traditional way as husband and wife.
THINGS THAT ARE REQUIRED FROM THE HUSBAND TO BE
When the husband to be visit the bride's family the second time like i said above, the brides parents will give him a list of what is needed from him, which include items for the father, mother, the first son, the youth and the village head etc.
FATHER'S ITEM
- English suit
- Black cover shoe
- A staff
- Goat
- Tubers of yam etc
MOTHER'S ITEMS
- Wrapper
- Cover shoe
- Kitchen items etc
HOW TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE IS PERFORM
After the husband to be has provided all the items on the list, a date for the marriage will be fix.
On that day the will cooked different type of meals, and everywhere will be decorated with traditional things, traditional songs will be played and tradiidance will be perform.
HOW IT'S PERFORM
Arrival of the guest
Welcoming words by MC
Arrival of the groom - The groom will be the first to be brought to public, he will dance to his seat waiting for his bride
Arrival of the bride - The mother of the bride will be sent to bring the bride to her husband, she will call out all the maidens together with the bride in the middle dancing with them to the groom
The introduction - These is where the bride publicly introduce the groom to her parents with a glass of palm wine of which their union will be sealed with blessings from the parents
Handing over - After the bride finish introducing the groom to her parents, the father will now handover the bride to the groom's family
TYPES OF FOOD THAT IS SERVED
A lot of traditional food will be cooked even before the guest arrives, and they will be displayed on a big table and the groom's family will taste them one after the other.
They Traditional foods are;
- Afang soup
- Ekpang nkukwo
- Afia efere
- Palm wine
- Ekoki etc
TYPES OF MUSIC PLAYED IN THE CEREMONY
The type of song that is played that day will be Traditional songs, especially the once that suit the occasion
COUPLE CLOTHES
On that day the couple will be wearing a Traditional dress that matches the culture of their village
In my own side the husband wear a white long sleeve native and tie a wrapper in his waist, and he put on a native cap with a staff
The bride will wear the same matching outfits with her husband, she will wear lot of beads and bracelets.
Her shoe, purse and umbrella will match with her dress.
CONCLUSION
Thanks for reading my post on how traditional marriage is perform, God bless you all.
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No doubt tradition is the main part of life and yes I'm agree with you about when you said about the traditional marriage when Bride and groom join together this part is really beautiful and actual beauty of Traditions thanks for this informative post stay blessed
Thank you so much.
And you too, stay blessed
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Congratulations, your post made it to the top today. You are very correct when it comes to the music that will be played on traditional marriage day. You know you can not say that something is traditional and English song is been played.
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Thank you so much for your support
One thing I love about the ibibios is the traditional attire of the bride, seeing her adorned with beads and the decorations on her head posits her as a princess.
I enjoyed reading your post.
Thank you so much😊
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@edidiongeffiong, I want to ask question base on this👇
If the bride has younger ones apart from the first son, won't they compensate them?
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I don't know of that one, but i think the groom will find something for them.
I have witnessed a traditional marriage in Akwa Ibom state the way you guys entertain your in-laws is what i like most. Talking them inside serve your in law first before anything start.
Yes oo... That's true, the family of the groom will be the to eat before any other person.
It seems guys have rushed off all matured girls from your hometown . Because going for traditional marriage preceding in your hometown . Is what most of those guys would highly appreciate . Nonetheless your hometown is the best highly considerate .
Thanks for your contribution
Oh my God!! You have explained all about traditional marriage ceremony. But why will the parents of the bride taste all the food that will be served in the occasion one after the other? That place got me confused.
No, i mean the parents of the groom, all the food will be given to them in small quantity for them to taste it.
That's what i normally see, but I don't know why the always do it
Okay, you need to ask someone about it so that you will explain it better
Alright.... I will do just that