#club100// Steemit Engagement Challenge Season 2 (Week 4)| The Worst day and the best day of your life - A true life story!

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Introduction

Hello everyone, it’s week 4 of the engagement challenge and I am happy to be part of this week’s challenge in the SteemAlive community. Talking about our bad and good days and the experiences we got from these days. Life is full of surprises and some of the surprises can either be good or bad. We never planned for such days but we faced them in life. I believed there is no human being that has never faced such moments except you are still a baby growing innocently but will one day face such moments.

However, such moments only come to teach us a life lesson and I can say I have learned from such moments. Permit me to share with everyone my bad and good days in my life.

My Worst day and what led to The Worst day in My life.

Growing up as a kid as I earlier said, I never thought of having a bad day because everything was moving on well. I always strive to do things the correct way because I thought only my parents can make my day a bad one. So I did everything possible to be the best amongst my siblings. Today I can proudly say my parents never shouted at me or flogged me for doing the wrong things. But my siblings constantly faced that.

Notwithstanding, I experienced my worst day during my Masters's Degree program at the University of Buea. I was an introvert then and only talk when necessary in case a question is asked. One day in one of our courses “Media and Conflict”, one of my classmates did not understand something and was asking me for clarification while the lecturer was in class. While trying to help her, my lecturer insulted me, that all I know is to make noise in class and it will reflect in my results.

I was so humiliated and felt like withdrawing from the program. I had never been humiliated before as such. I felt bad but I felt a little voice in me saying “…you are not God…what you think about me I will prove you wrong”.

As if the humiliation in class was not enough, we wrote his class test, he failed all of us from the North West Region of Cameroon. He is from the Southwest region. When I and my friends went to complain to him, the first thing he told me was “I hate your name”. I was so furious and I responded to him, “you are not my God who created me” and I left his office.

My friends stood there and were crying. It was a professional program and the tuition fee was worth millions in our local Currency. Failing a course a semester means not only adding an extra year but also spending more.

_{My friend after Crying, I took her to the canteen and offered her lunch to refill our energy and work harder.}

I left his office more determined to challenge him during exams. At least during exams, scripts are coded and he cannot identify whose script he is marking. It’s easy for him to fail me during the class test but impossible during exams. I decided to stop attending his lectures as was advised by my Head of the department and studied at home. I only went in for his exams and behold, I validated the course with B+ despite failed test mark.

The Best Day of My life and What Led to My Best Day.

The best day of my life was still during my master's degree program. I started the program in 2016 when I just put to birth my baby girl and the strike for Anglophone teachers and lawyers were ongoing. She was 3 weeks old and lectures had started. Meaning I was late for lectures for three weeks.

When I arrived on campus, I had to study extra hard to catch up with lectures. We had lectures from 7:00 am to 7:00 pm with no break especially when the lecturer was a visiting expert in the field. In my second week of lectures, the crisis intensified and boom, the university got involved. Serious tear gas on campus that day, only God served me that day.

I had to rush to my room, packed my bags with my baby and the nanny, back to North West Region. After 2 months, we were called back to campus. Most of my classmates dropped out of the program because of rumors that the academic year will be canceled.

I came back to campus and we continued with lectures. I remembered some days while in class, the sounds of gunshots outside the campus were heartbreaking. Even during exams, shootings were ongoing and we were seated writing exams.

This lead to my best day because, despite all, I studied hard and came out among the best graduating students with a Cumulative Grade Point Average of 3.38/4:00.

_{My Attestation of Results}

Come and see us on graduation day…😃😃, I was smiling from pre-molars to Molars 😂😂😂. The joy on graduation day is something else especially when your performance was good despite challenges. I imagined on graduation day, and the Vice-Chancellor in his speech said “ UB is a place to be”. Come and hear our chorus response while smiling “When you are not yet there”. This implies the difficulties students faced at UB but we thank God that in the end, we celebrated.

What I got right on my bad day?

In life never allow people to determine who you are because I realized that my lecturer thought he could determine who I will become. But I had studied human rights and I knew he was abusing me mentally. That was frustrating to other students but I challenged him and fought back. I was ready to take the problem to the Vice-Chancellor but was advised by my head of department to stay silent and study for my exams.

I got it right because I did not allow his thoughts about me to weaken me. I rather used his words as a motivating factor to work hard. And my results came out to be the best.

The decision I took to stay away from his lectures and study on my own, was the right thing because he could not see me anymore in his lectures and thought I have given up. It served as a distraction strategy, distracting him from pushing me down to failure.

The Lesson(s) I learned from the Worst/Best Day Experience?

• The first lesson I learned about the worst day experience was that we should never be overcarried by our emotions. My friends were overcarried by emotions and they cried almost the whole day. I controlled my emotions, which help me to think and developed a strategy to validate the course without intensifying the problems with the lecturer.
• I equally learned that in life no matter the difficulties you are going through, never give up. There is no successful man or woman in life without the worst days. Worst days at times are just a test to see if you will give up or fight back. My popular slogan during student life was that “no condition in life is permanent unless you decided to make it permanent”.
• I learned to be focused and work towards achieving my goals.
• Do not hold to grudges because they only helped to weigh you down. I was surprised last year, that same lecturer called me and was asking for a favor from me.
• Lastly, I learned that hard work pays when you are determined.

Conclusion

Life always has the way it treats us but it should not make you to lost focus. The worst and best moments happened for a reason and we should look at the worst days from a positive angle and work towards our best moments. I will say it again, in life no condition is permanent unless we decided to make them permanent. Stay focused and in less than no time, you will achieve great results.

I will invite @wase1234, @graciella, and @ijebest to share with us their experiences with the worst and best days in their lives.