Fair or unfair? Good question my dear @patjewell.

As you say, it depends on the perception we have at that moment, but what I have learned is that everything happens for a greater purpose, sometimes we do not understand the reason for this, but life itself and its journey is giving us the answers that before we did not understand or see, as if they were pieces of a puzzle.

There are many situations where I have asked myself why? and that what it brings is frustration, that's why now I just think: I don't know what I should learn from this yet but I hope to find out soon, and little by little I am accepting the designs of life itself.