I got so much value from this post, you have said it all, well I don't think I subscribe to that idealogy that says, fake it till you make it. I believe in being real, the truth is we could even find help early when we are real because those who are capable of helping may see us and help us but when we appear to be fine and luxurious we might miss their timely help because they feel you're the one who should rather help them.