Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 21 : The Power Of forgiveness

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At some phases in life we go through pain or hurt that we struggled to move past. This pain can remain and worsen causing more suffering. But what if there was a way to move past this pain, without disregarding on neglecting it? What if you could accept the pain but choose to focus on growth and healing instead of hatred anger, bitterness or revenge? Well this is what I call the path of forgiveness.

That is why in my article today I'll be writing on the theme "The Power Of Forgiveness" on steem4Nigeria accelerator contest week 21.

In my own understanding forgiveness is the act of letting go of negative feelings, resentment or anger towards a person who has hurt you and the past. It is not about finding faults on the hurtful behaviour but rather choosing a way to focus and move on. It is a way to move on from the past and find peace. We all must agree that it is not easy but it is worth it. You don't need to forget about what happened in the past. Always remember that it takes time and effort, but also remember that you can achieve it.

What a great question!

• first I think forgiveness is important in any relationship for it to become healthy because it allows for open and honest communication between the parties. If any of them is holding onto vengeance and anger is can make it difficult to have an open dialogue.
• secondly forgiveness can lead to a deeper m of trust and the level of understanding in a relationship. When there is a value of forgiveness between the parties a wall of trust and understanding is built between them which eventually makes it healthy...
• And lastly forgiveness can help to heal password and move forward in a positive manner and direction. I earlier said it is all about choosing to move on, focusing of healing and growth and finding ways not to ignore or deny past hurtful behaviours..

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Of course they were times in the past where I was hurt by people mostly my friends. There are few different ways that might be helpful to you as you work through the process of forgiveness which was also helpful to me. Those strategies include.
• Try to find compassion and empathy for both the person and yourself when trying to forgive.
• remember that everybody makes mistake and it is possible to move forward from a place of compassion and understanding.
• another important thing to take note of is your well-being. When you take the chance to forgive someone it provides self care by keeping your far away from bitterness and ensuring boundaries..

In the view of a first-person experience, one of the most challenging situation I finished was when a close friend of mine betrayed my trust in owerri significant way. I felt weakened, betrayed and angry and to say I ever imagine trusting that person again I was wrong.
As time went on I began to focus on self-care and understanding which I also practiced self-compassion on myself and both the person I was trying to forgive. Eventually with the help of forgiveness I was able to feel the full range of emotions I experiencing and finally moved on from the past of anger and forgave my friend.

And on a third person experience it was my mum who got betrayed by a friend who worked with her in the same organisation. She totally broke her trust and went on to do bad things which were of negative effects behind her back which led to the breakup between the relationship for months. But from the help of forgiveness which she got insight from the holy scriptures she was able to forgive her friend and they came together as friends once again..

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There is lot of truth in this statement. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand. When we love someone wholeheartedly, we're oftentimes willing to forgive them no matter the past. Forgiveness, when practiced is rooted In a place of love and leads to a deeper econnections and reconciliation in a relationship....

To sum it all up, love and forgiveness are twin which are deeply intertwined. When we choose to love someone be have also chosen the path of forgiveness on them for their past mistakes. It is a powerful tool to deepen and strengthen our relationship and grow as well as heal from the past hurts. It is not always easy but today results definitely show you that it is worth it

Thanksfor reading...

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