Mother-in-law Vs Daughter-in-inlaw Coexistence

Welcome to my blog, my good people of steemit. This topic is one that i also needed to share my thoughts on irresepctive of its expiry status as a comtest in a different community (shine with steem). It is one topic that has been viewed from skewed thoughts, but there should be more to this.

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💗 How is the relationship with your mother-in-law?

Though I do have any mother inlaw for now given my present singlehood status. I am still a young man, but with the experience that this isn't any problem as viewed from certain quarters. However, I already know that my relationship with my mother-in-law has no other path to follow other than being rosy.

It should be a good thing that mothers should love who their child brought to them. If they claim to have genuine love for their children, so is expected with whoever they brought in as their spouses. We cannot give what we don't have. If it is love, we can only dispense love. And when it is hatred, that is what we would dispense as well. We can not continue to pretend it is the name that brings the bad behaviour but rather the individuals behind it.

💗 Did you live or live with your mother-in-law? How was the experience?

Women are skewed in such a way that they find it difficult to coexist under a roof peacefully. This is what I intend to decipher soon. If we clearly notice, when two different adult women with unknown ties are kept in a given space, all you need is a time duration of 21 days before their differences explodes. They will start nursing grudges, faults identification, and as well try to exhibit some form of superiority over each other.

Remember that no woman wants to be ridden by her fellow gender. Where it is usually seen is between the rich and poor settings where one is in charge of the daily living of the other. Or maybe where age differences play a major role, but this does not hold strong for a long time.

Therefore, an experience from living with a mother inlaw may suffer from this mentioned school of thoughts on coexistence. But what worries me most is that, why can't the elderly in this case take the young maiden as her daughter. Was there anything she would do that her daughter hadn't done before? Living consciously and intentionally would change this bitterness.

The experience out there is usually on the negative, as many sad experiences are told about the mother-in-law. But that isn't the situation, as there are still best cases of both parties staying together. However, if I must advise, both gender do not have to live under permanently under a roof except on a temporary basis where visitations are made. Women are too sensitive to detect faults over time.
My experience would be lovable with my mother-in-law.

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💗 How did you make a good impression in front of your mother-in-law?

Most times we find ourselves trying to impress her. Trying to go extra miles and ensuring that we coexist peacefully. This is the problem, such temdencies or behavioural pattern does not last for a longer time. We find ourselves falling back to our original place of behaviour which hence puts up.a two-faced behaviour.

For a lady who is domestically grounded, it could be a smooth drive for her as those are primary things the mother-in-law may be mpressed about. Seeing that her daughter-in-law is well to do when it comes to chores. This plays a huge role in fostering harmony. However, where this is deficient, it is of the mother-in-law to show love by either correct rightly or learn her through the processes. For the opposite gender, a hardworking and successfully inlaw is a lovable addition to the new found home. Simple!

💗 Why is it so difficult for some people to get along with the mother-in-law?

This is a problem of individual differences and this usually come from top-to-bottom. It is rare for a newly married daughter inlaw to start antagonising the mother-in-law inlaw but the reverse is usually the case. Women feel threatened naturally when natural causes bring to them those they should rather see as helpers other than competitors.

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The altitude of the mother is what matters here. If it is positive in all spheres, there would be peaceful coexistence of everyone. It is time this motherly role models take the younger mothers as their daughters, learn them through the experiences of motherhood other than see them as though they came to take away their beloved sons from them.

We hope we all build up the right altitude and of good attributes that continue to show the role models we are.