Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 45: Marriage and it's Environs
What do you think makes a marriage successful?
The individual is the determining factor that makes a marriage work. No matter what is expected to happen to drive it to the promised land, if the duo doesn't allow it to work, it crumbles.
The two can only walk together if they agree. If they have agreed, therefore, every other thing would be added to their favour. The understanding and wisdom to apply each time to stir the wheels of their union would be available.
This comes with an uninterrupted communication and honesty to each other. Everyone trying to sincerely be open to one another and building the required confidence needed to stand strong as a union.
How can couples improve communication in their marriage?
Constant checking on each other no matter how short the time spent is. Gone are those days when there were no internet, mobile services, and free social platforms of communication aside from the postal agencies that took days to end each cycle.
Now, we have all of these channels of communication to ourselves. Hence, this makes communicating with one another intentionally and even when busy a lot better in our marriages. Messages are dropped and responded to when seen. Video calls made when at far for sometimes, etc
Discuss the importance of trust in a marriage.
Trust builds a strong wall around marriage that keeps you at peace no matter where you are. With trust available in any marriage, distance isn't a problem. Monitoring a partner and his or her whereabouts does not come to the table. There is absolute peace in the home.
No matter how little this might seem, it is one important thing we must try to uphold no matter how little. We should have this in every home to guarantee the longevity of the union. No one gets unnecessarily offended, unlike what distrust brings to the coffers.
How do couples healthily navigate conflicts?
This can be achieved by having a dialogue when there is a conflict. In this dialogue, each person airs out his or her anger for correction and forgiveness. One thing that must work for us very well is to ensure we have open communication each time there is a conflict.
What this does for us is to allow all parties to voice out their grievances and, in doing so, it helps relax the already tensed nerves. Conflicts are better resolved when we discuss in such accord as are consensus reached and forgiveness is given.
Do you consider the distance between spouses and cultural differences a problem in marriage? Why?
Not at AIl. I do not consider it a problem in marriage if well handled. With proper communication, and where trust exists, distance is relegated to the background.
Where I see cultural differences as an issue is where language is a barrier but I don't think it is common as these people must have been in a relationship before conceptualizing marriage. If they could handle all that during their relationship period, that isn't an issue. Communication with a clear understanding of oneself is key.
Learning and unlearning those cultural limitations that come between them.must have happened if they decided to walk happily as one. The life wire of every marriage is dependent on the couple and not by any other factor.
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Learning from successful married people is just the best, at least I gain one or more ideas on how you worked it out in your marriage. Sometimes people feel it is not possible to have a successful marriage, they feel if the marriage is not perfect from unset, then it can never be. In as much as I know that there is no successful marriage anywhere, but I know one or two that are successful.
I think high expectations before marriage kills marriage at early stage because once your expectations are not met, it becomes a problem. And I concur with you in expanding our communication and trust skills in marriage to enable us build something strong. Having the full understanding of what marriage entails is very important before saying "I do!" Thank you ma'am for the well explained post. I will come for a physical lecture soon. All the best!
You sure nail it, trust is the foundation of every marriage, the peace of mind it gives is just a wow! Unimaginable and comfortable one.
You've got really nice points, best wishes dear .
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