RE: SEC17 WK:#6: My Family, My Pride!
Uhm... A natural birth is with a midwife at home. Not hospital, no jabs, no fuss, no nonsense checks. Besides it's normal to deliver 2 weeks earlier or two weeks later as the date set.
What is a midwife cocktail?
Super she gave birth in the water and I do understand why she "suddenly" was ready.
That midwife reminds me of a doctor I once had and the last midwife trying to force her will upon me. I still see the desinterest on her face.
It's great it all went well, and super you kept your mouth shut as she was in pain. I know how I was ready to kill the guy telling me in (an attempt to support?!) to just ignore and push bla bla bla. My thought was: what do you know shut up).
To be honest I thought I don't want a guy around. This is a woman thing never thought I would think that. I know my friends said the same and my daughter did too which was a good thing for her partner since he can't stand blood.
A neighbour told me he found it a traumatized experience to see his wife give birth and never wanted children again (it took years but they had a second child).
I find it great you do not show pictures of your child and family. With you I agree one should be careful and can't be too careful.
You made clear how proud you are and I am happy for you.
I hope your girlfriend has time to enjoy. I know I always felt tired for over one year and the next one arrived. Looking back I mainly felt exhausted, always had a huge lack of sleep, it was impossible to relax, it's arranging and arranging and not even the toilet or shower gave me 5 minutes of peace.
Somehow I find it sad I wasn't able to enjoy next to parenting and a fulltime job. The "free" time I had I invested in quality time with the children and gave up on my sleep and own needs to compensate what they "missed" with a working mom.
I hope that won't haplen to you two.
Let's say she wanted it as natural as possible. She also played with the thought to give birth at home, but it was her luck to go to the hospital since the placenta didn't come out. She lost 2½ L blood afterwards and if we didn't had clinical personal around us she would be dead now. So we were really lucky in the end to get such professionals (part from the midwife at the beginning, but when it was time she did a great job too).
A midwife cocktail is a drink for when it's too much over the date, that the baby starts to come out - i don't know the exact term in english, in german it's called a Hebammencocktail.
She wanted to have me on her side, she wanted that i take care of her and make this experience. And i'm really happy she took that decision since i really wanted to be part of the birth and make this experience.
There are moments of joy for her too. But it's also exchausing since it's a full-time job for her. She is working as public dependentend so she could choose between the obligated 5 month, 2 years with only 30% of her sallary (and only 30% for the pension) or 3 years at home without income but with 100% for the pension. So she choosed the 2 years since we can't depend on only one income, or yes, we could i guess, but the money will be consumed only for the variable and fix costs. So no entertainment, nothing we could buy for joy or something, 3 years never went out eating or delivering. So we would must be really strict with the income. But she want to spend as much time as possible with him, which i agree with.
Thanks for your reply :)
It's nice the option is given to stay home that long with a part of the salary. I doubt there will be a pension in the future but if hopefully hers is worth more than my 2 person bag if french fries at the age of 72 if I ask for it.
I never heard of that cocktail (all midwives and doctors in the family si grew up between oregnancies and ilnesses and took bloidpressure,checked urine,and gave meds as a child...also a med (some droos) to remove the placenta). Only one (natural) thing comes to mind if it comes to starting labour although it's easy (the break the water) and in hospitals they give an infusion to start labour.
It's good to hear everything worked out well for you two and I hope her health will not be affected on long term by giving birth.
Enjoy the lovely family and the bit of luxury you have.
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