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Introduction

Hello Everyone, this is my first time writing in the steemkidss community and I'm pretty excited to be a part of this community

In the African culture one person alone doesn't train a child so there's always the consistent input of family (brother's,sister, cousins et cetra) They can come in forms of reprimand, corrections or teasing. While this is sometimes helpful it's important to know when the boundaries have been crossed into bullying.

What is a bully?

Bullies are children or sometimes adults who derive a sense of satisfaction,joy or pleasure from inflicting fear and or pain on other children and even adults

Do I have them in my locality?

The answer to this is a disheartening YES!!
Bullies aren't location sensitive. They can be found everywhere.
From the schools to the churches, on the street even amongst our security operatives. This is why we need to keep a watchful eye out.

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Bullied Before, and how did I feel?

No. I've been fortunate not to have been a victim of bullying but as i have two kids with me aged 8 and 9 I asked them to find out if they had experienced such.

They both said yes and narrated their experiences. She said it made her feel so sad she thought of quitting the class at the time but thankfully she told her mother and she's not being bullied again.

The second child's experience was in school, and by even her classmates. She says she feels like punching them anytime they bully her.
When I asked her if she's told her teacher she didn't have any answer to give. I'll go see her teacher when school resumes and have a serious talk with her and those boys.

How can kids win over their bullies?

The best and safest a bullied child can do is seek help

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What forms do bullying take?

There are different forms bullying takes. Here are the most common.

• Physical bullying:
  This is the most easily spotted form because it involves physical actions like punching, kicking, pinching,hitting or even threats of physical abuse. This type most always leaves a mark on the child's body.

• Verbal/Emotional Bullying:
  This is most often done when adults are away. This has to do with name calling and other such derogatory words.

• Cyber bullying

This uses tools like

• Chats

• Texts

• Emails etc to threaten,harass and even embarrass a child or teen.

• Racial bullying

• Sexual bullying; this is touching a child or teen in unwanted parts of the body.

Why might young ones be bullied?

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Young ones Don't need to do anything for them to be bullied. It's not their fault or should they see it as. It's rather the fault of the bullies and points to a deficiency in the bullies, but below are some reasons young ones might be bullied.

• The need for power and control over people's lives; A bully sometimes is seeking power and a sense of control over their victims life so they instill fear or give threats inorder to assert that power.

• Because they are in need of a victim.

• That's how they've been treated; At times bullies just exhibit what they've been taught at home.
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If a child is raised in a house where the parents or siblings always fight, quarrel or call each other foul names, that child will think that's normal and will spill it over to his peers.

Effects of Bullying

• Inferiority complex

• Anxiety

• Lack of interest in school

• Sleeplessness

• Depression.

• Constant fear of being among peers.

Solutions to Bullying

Here are a few things a child and parents can do

• Report all bullying to your parents,guardians,teachers:
  Children must realize that their parents have their best interest at heart and will do their possible best to ensure the safety of their wards. Most times these bullies lay threats on the kids that if they report they'll be beaten.

• parents must keep reminding their children that they are not alone.

• Lavish praise on your child for telling/talking to you about it. Most parents either shout at the child for such feelings of childishness or ignore the issue altogether. The kids need to know that they won't scolded for them for telling you or be blamed for being bullied.

• Teach them to stand up for themselves in such situations.

I invite @eliany @saracampero and @nadiaturrina to participate.

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