If upgrading Newcomer's Community will put an end to all these problems faced by newcomers, then Steamit Team should definitely look up to this upgradation. Talking about myself, I got my acheivement 1 verified in just a day. I came across pretty coperative greaters. And I am so sorry that you had to go through the verification anxiety. I understand it must have tensed you because being a beginner here and not knowing about so many things itself makes is harder to grow.
I agree with the points that you have put forward. I hope Steemit Team will look onto this matter.
You have made a very pretty good suggestions.
Best of luck :)