Grieving is a Healing Process
Grief is a very natural emotion that comes to us when we are at a loss of something or someone, it cannot be controlled. If there is a tragedy in our life, we will feel the pain there is no doubt to it. We feel the pain of the reality of that tragedy. We express our grief in different ways, either we cry or just sulk or cut ourselves out from everyone, or we mourn The depth of our grief also shows the intensity of our loss or the impact that has been made on us by the tragedy of life. The good part of grieving is that when we grieve, we accept the loss in our life, we accept whatever tragedy has happened to us and we are not in denial.
In grief we will cry or yell also, and those are some of the best forms of release, so when we grieve and bring out a reaction to that emotion in a way it's good because then we are allowing it to Let Go from us. But if we do not show any emotion and get stuck with that tragedy, slowly it will start creeping within us and we will start creating energy blocks for us. Tragedies that happen in early childhood days are very good examples of it. When the child is very small, the child does not fully understand the nature of grief and in bargain it sets within the internal energy system of the body as a trauma. When the child grows up, cannot even sometimes figure out the real reasons behind the disturbed patterns of life.
A friend of mine she lost her young son who was 30 years. She was very expressive about it and she would cry a lot. I would not stop her, because if she would not then all that grief, she would start storing within her. Sadly, her husband could not do that, he never expressed himself out over the loss of his Son. He was very attached to him; he could not even accept that he was gone. Over a period of time, he started developing some unexplained symptoms of health issues and in 2 year's time he too passed away. It's a very sad thing for my friend, but she could not do anything for him. He was a sportsman, very active and fit and no one believed he was gone so soon. Grief took over on him in a big way and he could not let it out. He could not accept it and he himself got caught up in it.
Expressing grief is not a sign of weakness, rather it is something where you need courage to accept it and move on in life. We are all vulnerable at some point of time and accepting that vulnerability is no shame or no weakness. It is just an acceptance of self. I tell my clients, if you are feeling sad about something express it out, if need be, cry it out, yell if you want, do it till the time you feel no longer need to do it and you feel that now this incident does not bring me any more pain. There are some pains that one can never forget, like one of my friends, but accepting it is her victory and with that she has been able to move on in her life with what she has now. That requires immense amount of strength and courage. Grief will weaken our entire physical body. We know that. Cry out for a day and see how weak the body feels, there is no energy left and then you may even feel sick. But it is necessary to empty that load from the heart and then the rejuvenation process can begin.
If one has trouble in expressing grief, then Meditation is one tool which will help. Grieving is a healing process and not a sign of weakness.
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