Steem engagement challenge-S10/W3| I do not believe marriages are made in heaven

I don't care about this saying that marriages are made in heaven because if that was the case all marriages would stay intact. All right, I agree with the point that marriage is a part of our life but believing that marriages are made in heaven, no way, I don't believe that. To give you my detailed point of view, here are my reasons in the form of answers to your points.

𝖣𝗈 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝖻𝖾𝗅𝗂𝖾𝗏𝖾 𝗆𝖺𝗋𝗋𝗂𝖺𝗀𝖾𝗌 𝖺𝗋𝖾 𝗆𝖺𝖽𝖾 𝗂𝗇 𝗁𝖾𝖺𝗏𝖾𝗇? 𝖲𝗁𝖺𝗋𝖾 𝗒𝗈𝗎𝗋 𝗈𝗉𝗂𝗇𝗂𝗈𝗇.

We have been listening to this saying since childhood that couples are made in heaven, but they have to be maintained on earth. Where there are many ground truths related to our life, accepting that there is a need to make the right coordination in married life.

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I don't trust in any of these-

Matches are made in heaven
Couples are made in heaven,
marriage is just a game of chance.

No relationship but only immediate family comes with birth and we humans need to maintain them. Actually, it's not a coincidence or it has anything to do with marriage or any relationship, especially husband and wife but every relationship in this world. These days marriages are no more stable if both husband and wife do not make a lot of effort to maintain it.

I feel that there should not be any kind of concealment in married life. If husband and wife share everything with each other like good friends, then the sweetness of the relationship will remain forever else the partnership will bear out within no time. So, saying that marriages are made in heaven has no meaning to me.

When I got married, I knew the girl but I had asked my mother to approach them and so a love affair was converted into an arranged marriage. If I changed some of my habits, she also took full care of my likes and dislikes.

Tolerance is very important for a good relationship. Like every husband and wife, we also have minor quarrels, but the good thing is that both of our anger cools down very quickly and we start laughing and talking within a moment. I don't think my marriage would have stayed even if it was made in heaven.

I completely agree with the fact that our pairing is not pre-decided, so two strangers become husband and wife and live with each other throughout their lives. The ego becomes the biggest reason for disputes between husband and wife. So as far as possible, don't let ego come in between your relationship.

Nevertheless, the effort is that the journey of life should always be filled with happiness. There would be hardly any person who does not have differences with their life partners as we often argue about small things too, but we settle down soon. It seems to me that if husband and wife understand each other well, then their life remains happy even if there is a difference of opinion.

Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife. Franz Schubert

In the olden days, the elders of the family used to find brides and grooms, but today most of the youth choose their own life partner keeping in mind their likes and interests. Be it a love marriage or arranged every couple should have the commitment to maintain the relationship, only then the married life can be successful and happy.

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This relationship is based on trust

We have been listening to this saying since childhood that couples are made in heaven, but they have to be maintained on earth. Where there are many ground truths related to our life, we accept that there is a need to make the right coordination in married life.

Not only husband and wife but every relationship in this world comes with birth and we humans need to maintain them. Actually, it's not a coincidence or it has anything to do with marriage or a relationship. These days, marriages are no more stable if both husband and wife make a lot of effort to maintain it.

I feel that there should not be any kind of concealment in married life. If husband and wife share everything with each other like good friends, then the sweetness of the relationship will remain forever, else the partnership will bear within no time.

When I got married, I knew the girl but I had asked my mother to approach them and so a love affair was converted into an arranged marriage. If I changed some of my habits, she also took full care of my likes and dislikes.

Tolerance is very important for a good relationship. Like every husband and wife, we also have minor quarrels, but the good thing is that both of our anger cools down very quickly and we start laughing and talking within a moment. I don't think my marriage would have stayed even if it was made in heaven.

I completely agree with the fact that our pairing is not pre-decided, so two strangers become husband and wife and live with each other throughout their lives. The ego becomes the biggest reason for disputes between husband and wife. So as far as possible, don't let ego come in between your relationship.

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Nevertheless, the effort is that the journey of life should always be filled with happiness. There would be hardly any person who does not have differences with their life partners as we often argue about small things too, but we settle down soon. It seems to me that if husband and wife understand each other well, then their life remains happy even if there is a difference of opinion.

Matches are made in heaven- no way, I am not interested to go to heaven- not right now.
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Couples are made in heaven, and marriage is just a game of chance. I don't know how many such phrases have been prevalent for centuries to strengthen our traditional system, but I believe that marriages are not made in heaven, but are made here between the two of us.

In fact, such idioms have been coined to console the dejected minds of people dissatisfied with mismatched marriages. In the olden days, the elders of the family used to find brides and grooms, but today most of the youth choose their own life partner keeping in mind their likes and interests. Be it a love marriage or arranged, every couple should have the commitment to maintain the relationship, only then the married life can be successful and happy. This relationship is based on trust

𝖶𝗁𝗂𝖼𝗁 𝗆𝖺𝗋𝗋𝗂𝖺𝗀𝖾 𝖽𝗈 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗉𝗋𝖾𝖿𝖾𝗋, 𝖺𝗋𝗋𝖺𝗇𝗀𝖾𝖽 𝗈𝗋 𝗅𝗈𝗏𝖾? 𝖶𝗁𝗒?

I have seen many 'love marriages' breaking up because couples give up all their love for each other even before getting married. Of course, there are exceptions and I know some couples who were in love before marriage and stay in love for years after marriage.

𝖠𝖼𝖼𝗈𝗋𝖽𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗍𝗈 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗐𝗁𝖺𝗍 𝗂𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝖽𝖾𝖿𝗂𝗇𝗂𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇 𝗈𝖿 𝖺 𝗁𝖺𝗉𝗉𝗒 𝗆𝖺𝗋𝗋𝗂𝖾𝖽 𝗅𝗂𝖿𝖾?

This question is basically wrong. Because all marriages, whether love or arranged, are pre-decided. The only question is, who decides them? Traditional marriages are arranged by the family. Whether it's arranged by our parents, arranged by friends, arranged through a commercial website or dating app, or arranged by ourselves - whatever the case, every marriage is an arranged arrangement.

𝖲𝗁𝖺𝗋𝖾 𝗌𝗈𝗆𝖾 𝗋𝖾𝖺𝗌𝗈𝗇𝗌 𝖻𝖾𝗁𝗂𝗇𝖽 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗂𝗇𝖼𝗋𝖾𝖺𝗌𝖾 𝗂𝗇 𝗆𝖾𝗇𝗍𝖺𝗅 𝖽𝗂𝗌𝗍𝖺𝗇𝖼𝖾 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝗌𝖾𝗉𝖺𝗋𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌.

Do you know marriage can also cause depression? Yes, depression in married people known as post-wedding depression is a common problem. We see a number of couples who are victims of depression but they have no idea why they suffer from it or even if they know about their problem they just keep on with their married life. But then a time comes when they take a decision, this way or that way. Such depression in marriages where people are unhappy with their partners or the marriage itself in the first place.

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Such people whose coordination is not good with their partner or people who have been married forcefully can also have post-wedding depression. Now do you think marriages are made in heaven?

Girls often feel depressed after marriage when they are away from their loved ones. Being unable to accept the new family and change can lead to post-wedding depression. If there is physical or mental abuse from the partner after marriage, then depression is sure to ruin their marriage.

Men have their own reasons but they both suffer from this problem

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