"SEC S11W1: Challenging Your Beliefs about Motherhood and Fatherhood"

Hello all steemian friends
Greetings from me to everyone who reads my post this time, and this time I will write a contest Steemit Engagement Challenge season 11 week 1, the theme that I will raise is "Challenging Your Beliefs about Motherhood and Fatherhood" made by the Colombia-Original community from the account @colombiaoriginal with some questions asked:

In my opinion, men and women are incomplete if they have not become a father and a mother because a family is incomplete if they do not have offspring because having children makes the home atmosphere more comfortable and beautiful and also having children will also take care of us when we are old and also children will pray for us later. Therefore, don't be angry or disappointed if you become a mother or father quickly without enjoying the two of you after marriage, even though being a mother and father is not easy, as we imagine, many of them experience baby blues due to stress from taking care of children who cannot get help from men to take care of children and should be a mother and father, you also have to prepare sufficient mentally.

Parents have an important role in the success of achieving the goals of their children. So that parents are required to understand and explore the character and personality of their children. In the long journey of their children to achieve their goals, parents are figures who cannot be separated at all, without the support and help of parents, children not only experience difficulties in achieving their dreams but also difficulties in determining and deciding the direction of their goals. The role of the child's parents is always related to the child's process, starting from his education, developing his character, developing ethics and morals, and so on. All of this will determine the success of the child in achieving his dream. So in my opinion, parents should put aside matters that are not too important first, such as when they were single, they liked to hang out in caffes or inheritance or traveling and for many mothers who are no longer working and focusing more on their children, that is a good thing too. It is better if you are already a parent to pay more attention to your child first unless it is important to make a living or to learn important knowledge if the child does not get full love from the parents then in the future the child will do anything arbitrary.

Today, the development of human civilization means that human views on life are increasingly diverse, giving rise to more complex problems, and one of the phenomena that is currently being discussed virally is the childfree trend. Childfree is the choice of married couples who decide not to have children according to the will and agreement of the couple itself, childfree is not a new term for married couples in new countries, many married couples in big countries choose to make this decision, but in recent years childfree has become a trending topic on various social media in Indonesia, resulting in controversy from various circles of society.
From the point of view of human rights, choosing not to have children after marriage is indeed a right that is not wrong because each individual has the right to decide what is in their respective lives, and we must also respect and respect the principles of other people's lives by not blaspheming them. However, from an Islamic perspective, this is a religion that is rahmatin lil alamin, where everything from the smallest to the biggest has been regulated in the Al-Quran and Hadith, where all solutions to problems from time to time, the Koran has become a reference, because Muslims will be safe if the Koran and hadith are the guidelines. Having children after marriage is sunnah, and in Islam childfree is not in accordance with Islamic teachings, because with a large number of people the Prophet Muhammad SAW would be proud and one of God's gifts to married couples is to have children, for couples who already have children, of course they know how happy it is to have children. In addition to the advantages above, having offspring can also be a savior in the afterlife when parents are gone, namely uninterrupted practice.

In my opinion, being a parent must have ideal conditions in terms of economic, social and physical health because educating children requires a lot of costs, both from the first birth, namely starting from milk, baby pempes and other baby equipment so that it requires a very large fee for each month and also if the child has started school they need a lot of needs and for physical health it is also very important especially for a mother how tired it is to educate a child starting from a baby because babies are often fussy in the middle of the night and don't sleep for a week making a mother have to stay up late looking after the baby where other housework must also be completed and also preparations for her husband so it requires a strong mentality to become a mother must be prepared physically and mentally.

so for my contest post this time thank you for everything, in this case I invite my friends @hotspotitaly,@anroja ,@radjasalman and @irawandedy to participate here, thanks for everything.