SEC S11W1: Challenging Your Beliefs about Motherhood and Fatherhood

Do you think a man or a woman is incomplete if they are not a father or a mother? Why?

There is a moment after the birth of the baby during which he begins to put his eyes on your eyes, and these glances from him overwhelm you with endless and non-stop thoughts and feelings, from love for the first time you tasted, anxiety for the first time that flirts with you, fears .. And so on.

There was an expression of aliens in their films that I don't forget since I was a child, and that is, if that moment came in a movie or a series when the hero or one of the characters stops, looks into his eyes, and then says: (Oh my god !!) Accommodates the event, the moment and everything.

Is this (oh my god)what will happen to you when you feel the feelings of fatherhood and its responsibilities some time after the birth of the child and his eyes fall on you Responsibilities.

When I gave birth to my first child, I thought that the feelings of fatherhood have one line, and they will not change no matter how many children increase, and when I gave birth to my second son, it was another dilemma that had a completely different taste and different fears, but it was a delicious and beautiful dilemma.

And this - as I mentioned - if you are a person with responsibilities. Those who are complacent are very comfortable, as are those who suffer from feelings .. And these I did not mention here.

I am definitely in favor of procreation. Life without marriage and children is lonely. In your prime, it will look delicious, fun and free from worries if you do not get married or have children. But what I myself noticed about models who refused to get married and then bypassed the flower of life and entered the depths of old age is that their bodies, energy, souls wear out and their figures are shabby. He could have resisted her in his prime, but she managed him in his old age.

Do you think a parent should put aside their goals or dreams for their children? Explain your answer.

The worst sentence I ever heard from my father was the famous one: "I sacrificed my life for you".

Whoa. When did I ask you, child, to sacrifice your life for me

I don't know if parents are aware of the impact this sentence has on their children What is the point Making them feel guilty for being the cause of their parents ' problems

First you need to remember that the child did not ask to come into the world, it was you who brought him back into this world. If you have not imprinted this aspect in your brain from the very beginning, then you are in deep trouble. Therefore, it is the duty of parents to protect their children, feed them, educate them and do everything possible to ensure a decent life for them because the children did not ask for anything.

By making the decision to procreate, one undertakes to face and endure difficulties. Otherwise we don't. Point.

The day I heard this sentence, I promised myself that I would never sacrifice my life for my children. At least in the sense in which the word "sacrifice"was expressed. However, I am the first to never say "no". But there, there is never anything.

Speaking about sacrificing your life, you need to understand the sacrifice of your dreams, hopes, projects and ambitions. It may seem harsh to say that but when he comes into the world, No child asks us to sacrifice our lives for him. At worst only our body. Ha ha ha ha.

And again, the body finds itself. With sports blows or with a scalpel. But dreams, the more we let time pass, the more they flee from us. The more they run away, the more frustrated and bitter our frustration becomes.

The child grows very quickly. You deprive yourself for him, put your dreams in a box for him and give everything you have for him and one day he goes to live your life and transfer all your frustrations, regrets and failures to him.

Everything I do and all my results come from my actions and not from the actions of others. The same is with children. The child is not the cause of your failure or condition, only you are the reason.

What is your view of people who choose not to have children?

Here I want to ask a question, being the son of one of the families and having grown up and become the master of your decision, Do you accept to end your life for fear of the future and what you may suffer from diseases or even accidents My explanation is that most of the childless, not to say all of them, were exposed to circumstances in their childhood that made them have fears that were the reason for their belief in this idea, for example, an unstable family and the suffering of parental separation, for example, a contemporary of wars in his country and forced to emigrate away from his family, reasons that made him not wish to bequeath this to his children.

The decision to have children is not easy with you, but the idea and the chapter is that no one should make it until he studies his dimensions and makes sure that he is psychologically and healthily qualified to have children, to bring out a psychologically and physically healthy generation.

Do you consider that in order to be a mother or father there must be ideal conditions (economic, social and physical and mental health)? Why?

The people who give birth to a lot of children are the simple segment of people who do not have enough culture and awareness of this issue, and this percentage is large in Arab countries, especially in rural and rural villages, in addition to poor African countries, and these people basically do not have a background in methods of birth control, condoms or other other methods, and if he has knowledge of it, he is a simple human being who is not convinced to pay money for these things ... I will not dwell on this category, its way of thinking, its cluster, the surrounding society and its way of thinking

But let's talk about the educated and conscious category, and you find that the majority of that category does not have a large number of children, and the importance of having children in that category is a priority from my point of view, because when this category gives birth and prepares this child with scientific and cultural ideas and patterns, there is an individual who is prepared to be of a positive character to raise society together.

Therefore, he noted that in the" Old Continent " European countries are opening the doors of immigration for young people and families with young children to create new generations and breathe life again, especially as the population and labor growth are decreasing.

Reproduction is a feature of living beings but I am with the idea of having one or two children maximum and raising them properly and preparing them to raise the level of society in which they live and so there can be future generations that may limit these pains and tragedies.

We are unable to stop the world from procreating but our responsibility is to raise awareness about how our children are.

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