Phases and Chalenges Of Married

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On this occasion, I would like to write about the phases and challenges of being married in accordance with my duties and functions as a penghulu in charge of carrying out the marriage contract for prospective brides.

The development of marital relations which we think can be divided into several stages.

The first stage is the unification stage

The age of marriage is 1 month to 2 years, this stage begins with a more intense introduction from the two individuals, personal needs are not yet visible because the husband or wife is still controlled by the feeling of wanting to please their partner, for example, the husband used to not like dangdut music but because the couple likes it now so like, usually things that are different between the two partners become sidelined especially in the first months which is usually called the usual honeymoon.

According to our observations, everything is going smoothly and beautifully, there are no significant problems that will be a challenge in a marriage, kicking just a balance between personal needs and the desire to satisfy and unite with a partner

The second stage is the stage of having a place to live

Usually after two or three years, in the second and third year, the husband and wife usually have a more stable life, meaning that they already have children, so there is a need to own a house and also have a vehicle and financial ability. the division of roles between husband and wife, the reappearance of personal differences, the emergence of close needs with friends and other extended family, the main challenge is how to manage these differences, usually there may have been small fights and personal considerations arise but we must be able to eliminate and reduce them so that they do not widen and enlarge become a big problem in the family negotiation and deliberation skills will help couples resolve conflicts in this period.

The third stage is the stage of personal needs

After 5 years at this stage, personal needs are getting stronger, the need to always be with a partner has begun to decrease, like the word love cannot be passionate forever but life will return to normal. The challenge at this stage is to maintain a balance between the rights and obligations of husband and wife. not forcing their own desires and also the child has increased, maybe 2 and 3 so that the economic needs also increase and at the age of 5 years and over it should have its own place to live even though you can't make a house, it means that you are not economically capable but you should be able to choose to rent a house so can manage their own household without interference from parents or in-laws

The fourth stage is the stage of collaboration or cooperation

This stage is for those who are over 5 years old, because the husband is stable in life and has his own house. Although it may not be feasible, it is time to work together to provide support for the couple to do things that require adjustments, more challenges from an economic point of view as well as children. children who have grown up and are starting to enter elementary school or kindergarten so that parents' attention will be more devoted to their children.

The fifth stage is the readjustment stage

Usually after more than 15 years or 20 years, namely when the couple needs to adjust to a new life order, after living almost 15 years of life, there are 20 years where maybe they are getting bored and bored and the children are big and maybe there are children who are already married and have a family. maybe there will also be a challenge when the husband starts to glance left and right or what is known as the second puberty for a husband here the wife must be good at bringing herself up so that the couple is not interested in other women outside so that the husband's life will be harmonious and happy and nothing will happen in various undesirable things such as the presence of another ideal woman or the occurrence of infidelity.

Hopefully this short article is useful for all of us, especially in fostering a harmonious household.
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