"Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health".

Am @saintkelvin17, a very hardworking Nigerian steemian. This week topic is also very nice and I love it. I am here to try again and if you ask the steem4bloggers team they will tell you that I almost won last week engagement challenge, anyway I blame myself for not stepping ahead on time but I hope I win this week.

🙍 What are the advantages and disadvantages of parents strict behaviour?

Everything has it's own advantage and disadvantage so let's discuss about the advantages and disadvantages of the strict behavior of parents.

ADVANTAGES	DISADVANTAGES
Being strict helps your children to become more responsible and focus on how they can achieve the best in life.	Being too strict can affect the social life of your kids as they will be too weak to face real-life situations.
It can make your children almost perfect as they try their best to never offend you	It can make your children feel totally insecure.
It can make your children realize how bad they have made you feel as well as understand what is right and wrong	It can your children heartless most especially when they become parents like you.
It makes children serious with their studies because they know how their parents will react if they see a bad result.	It makes the children to carryout house chores with so much fear.

🙍 What do you feel if you were at the place of such childrens who have to face strictness?

I will feel very bad and deserted, I won't be a happy kid at all because id a very painful experience. My father was very strict with me when I was less than 7 years old. Am the first child of my parents and my father would beat me up like a teenage child. Each time I look for the girls trouble outside and run inside the house, they will report me to my dad and he won't hesitate to beat me up.

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I have received several beatings from my father when I was a very little boy and this made me to fear him alot, I became scared of my father in the beginning of my teenage life, each time is coming from the left door I will pass the right foot, each time I want to ask him for something I will tell my mum to help me tell him.

🙍 As a child, what do you expect from your parents regarding their behavior?

My parents should always come back to me and talk to me calmly about the reason for their actions, they should always make me understand why they reacted that way and they should always advise me on how to avoid the negative things I did.

I remember the day my father flogged me with a wire for the first time, I had a mark on my lap that day and I just laid on the floor crying small small and I was crawling to my room, my father saw me and became scared and am sure he regretted his actions. My father later talked to me personally and all I can remember that I was saying is Yes, ok, alright I was just gazing at his forehead and avoiding his eyes.

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🙍 What are the negative effects of emotional blackmailing?

• It affects our social life which makes us antisocial.

• It reduces our self-esteem and makes us never to trust ourselves.

• It makes us depressed and sad, we might even commit suicide.

• It makes us limit our boundaries in life thereby making us not to ever make progress.

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