Many people will read this and say, "I know, I know", but you're right, sometimes it will take a tragedy for a harsh reality to sink in. I had a very eye-opening experience this past year that changed everything and it's amazing how a near tragedy allowed the best things in the world to finally take their place in my life. Last point, we all do need to care more about ourselves and truly love ourselves. You're right that it does come down to that.