RE: WHAT WE SHOULD BE TELLING OUR (GRAND)/PARENTS AND GOVERNMENT DOES NOT WANT YOU TO KNOW
My parents spent their last few years together in a nursing home. We were fortunate that they had a semi decent staff. Many turned out for my parents memorial services because they were so popular. . However, my dad passed before my mom, and i feel she was marginalized as they squooshed her into a corner of a room basically. My mom was so passive that she never said anything. I was trying to arrange it for her to come live with me but she passed, almost a year to the day from when my dad passed, before i could make arrangements. I do believe she died heartbroken do to my dad's passing. They were married 62 years. It breaks my heart those last few years of my parents. They had each other but they just wanted to go home too. Loss of independence is hard. I know they are happy and at peace now tho
Dear @luanne, it's a touching story... I cannot imagine myself in the situation like yours. Those times are sure the hardest times in our lives but losing somebody after 62 years it's horrible.As we are a social species, the connection between partners, family or community can be tuff when it comes down to loss. But time is not gracious to anybody, that is why we need to educate and don't be afraid or ashamed to talk about these things because it is happening all the time. Maybe not right now, but eventually, we will all be in the same situation.
Exactly!! That is what so many, me included, in the disabilities movement keep telling ppl! Ppl with disabilities is the largest growing population in the states! We all get old! We all wind up becoming a part of that population. Unfortunately, it's hard to many to listen. They don't until they become a part of that population which in many ways is too late