Thanks for sharing! I think you were right to decline her, in the way that you did. But I also don't think you can blame her for trying to use the cards she was dealt as she has learned will work. That's the tricky thing. When you're born into a system that's flawed, you have to learn to work with those flaws, even if they hinder the overall goal of change. But it's a good topic for thought and conversation, for sure.