You've Got A Friend

fryegg (33)in #fryegg • 8 years ago (edited)

What would we do without friends? What is a friend? Webster says, “Definition of friend for English Language Learners. : a person who you like and enjoy being with. : a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity). Your dictionary says, “The definition of friend is someone who is on your side. An example of a friend is an ally in a protest. Friend is defined as a person that you are fond of, with whom you talk or spend time. An example of a friend is the person you have known a long time and trust.” Like, helps, supports and by your side definition of a friend.
I have always said that you are lucky to have a few good friends, and I am beyond blessed. Friends make you laugh when you want to cry. And if you are crying? They cry with you. A friend will bring you soup when you are sick and encourage you when you are struggling. A friend is someone who knows just about everything about you, and loves you anyway. And research has shown that friends help us live longer. Robert Rowney, D.O., a certified psychiatrist and the director of the Cleveland Clinic mood disorder unit, says there are certain habits that genuine friends possess, which make them more like family. And it’s these characteristics — and sometimes even tough love — that create that indescribable bond.
Where would we be without them? They push us to be more than we think that we can be and help us to be our real selves and as we do that we become to accept ourselves more. We can be so hard on ourselves but a true friend won’t let you stay in negative land, they will grab your hand, pull us up and push us on our way. They help us carry our burdens.
A friend will really listen to You. They hear your heart and soul and really want to help without making it all about them. This builds a tight bond because you do the same for them when they need you. Paul Sacco, Ph.D., a listening expert says the basic key to a balanced conversation is actively paying attention to the other person. “People who are good listeners validate other people’s feelings It shows that what they’re saying makes sense.”

A friend you will truly trust. and you will be vulnerable with, you will let them see the real you, your insecurities and your secret fears and know that it is going no further. They are the family you choose, the ones who really gets you, the one who can tell that something is going on just by looking at you. They are the one who are there through everything, peaks and valleys, success and failures, marriage or divorce. They stand and support you through it all. They invite you to holidays and won’t let you be alone on Valentine’s Day. They care about your heart if it is broken, and rejoice you when it is full.
A good friend will always have your back. They will tell you the truth even if you don’t want to hear it and will keep you grounded if you get too self assured. They won’t let others take advantage of you and will stand up for you if you aren’t around (and they will let you know they did!) They will be there to help you in uncomfortable situations and applaud you for getting through them.
A true friend will make time for you. They will drop things to help you and never make you feel bad or guilty for it, you will know that you are a priority. If you haven’t seen them for awhile it will seem like yesterday when you reunite.
A real friend practices forgiveness. They are willing to forgive you if you have been a jerk and they don’t gossip behind your back. A real friend understands that you are not perfect and isn’t afraid to remind you. They are honest, open and have pure motives.
A friend wants the best for us. They push us to be better and we learn from them. They teach us through their actions and attitudes to be kinder, give of ourselves, and not to be afraid to give back. Having friends truly bring happiness. Your not alone. They will ask you what you need and not let you do something you will regret. A friend loves at all time.