Ja, we all know billykeed. The acid test is to then go and love them by doing a good turn for them. Try it and then see how you grow friend. Sometimes it's beyond repair I know. But the strength of true charity is immeasurable and the results will show only perhaps later on in the progress of your eternal progression. But, it always leaves a far more positive feeling and a hundred times more of a better chance for the relationship/situation to improve.