"I never learned from a man who agreed with me." Robert Heinlein. i have no idea why people have to be attacked by a bear to learn to be wary of them. i have puzzled over this for along while. eventually i just learned to laugh AT people who do obvious stupid crap without thought, then cry about the results. it is probably mean. i can't think for anyone else though, and agonizing over the misfortune people cause for themselves is too painful. if someone genuinely wants my help, i'll help. most don't. some will change because they don't like being laughed at. if i come up with a better method i'll probably write a book. it may have something to do with most people being afraid to see reality as it is, because of the implications of their responsibilities in it. whatever it is, it is at least, well, can something be subconsciously willful?