Thank you for this post and I also thank @maverickinvictus for sending me a link to this post as he knows I needed it.
It has been difficult for me to be real especially in public because as you said:
The society we live praises the happy, extrovert and sociable individuals, even if they’re hiding the sadness behind that ‘mask’.
Just the other day, one of the big bosses in our office asked me: "Why are you silent?" as if there was something wrong with it. I responded and told him I have always been silent.
Unfortunately, I'm expected to always engage and be sociable at work. And that's really difficult when I had to pretend. I did that and my depression got worse.
So right now, I like being alone because that's when I can be myself and feel what I have to feel, without consequences.
Thanks for this beautiful and relatable post.
I relate a lot to your comment. I don't talk much to people I don't know or don't feel comfortable with. I've always struggled to feel part of groups in school, as I just enjoy being quiet and by my own. It's not because we don't have anything to say, but because we just like having space and talking when we want to (at least in my case).
I started being more myself after graduating from college, though. Even at the work office, I would do my own thing without caring much about what other people think. If people can't respect who you are, that's their problem, not yours. The ones that respect your personality, are the people that truly matters. I've been working remotely for 3 years and it helps a lot with it.
Liking being alone is a good thing. It make us more reflective and conscious :) Thank you for sharing your story!
I find that I am just usually with 1-3 people who truly get me and know my personality. Sure I am sociable at times but often I just want to go home and read silently.
Oh how I want to just work from home!
Thank you for sharing your story too! I also want to work remotely like you and I believe that would take out a lot of stress we get in an office setting.
I am glad that you found the post helpful and I relate to you as I also work in Employee relations and you are just expected to be happy and fully motivated all the time when there are a lot of times you feel so bad and don't want to go out.
Being unhappy is seen to be wrong as if we want to be depressed and unhappy :(
Just know wanderlass we are always here ready just be there
Thank you for sharing this to me! They just wouldn't understand. There's a model employee that they would like everyone to become. They force all those non-work activities for the sake of "engagement" without bothering to check on people at an individual level.
Yeah one of my former boss thought that if you give a person enough money and incentives that they basically have the right to make them slaves and control their lives even what they put in their social media and who their friends are.