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RE: The Truth About Things - Day 50 Selfie Freewrite Celebration
I didn't know that you were pregnant when you got out of this relationship. That makes it even so much harder!! And you had to flee to his parents! So crazy.
And I so agree with you. Things come and go. Even people. My sister lost her husband 2 days ago. they met later in life and they were so happy together. I am so sad for her, but Iknow that they cherished all their time together.
Thank you for hanging in there.
Unfortunately, this incidendt wasn't the end of the relationship. He wormed his way back and I dropped charges at his mom's
request and we continued to go back and forth with his promises to change and he got counseling. I was in the church and he'd go and pretend he had changed and even fooled the preacher and others who knew me much longer, but I never told the rest of them about the abuse.
We were separated 18 times in a 20 year marriage and when Ben was 11 and Billy 16, we left for good. I had no resources or a job and we lived in the country then and even then thought we would be on the streets, i thought, this time I was never returning. Thank God for my friend who took us all in and helped me get on my feet, get my first apartment and apply and get my first jobs.
I am praying for your sister, too. That's so sad. I pray I get a good long time with Jeff.
It is so hard to leave abusive relationships - especially with all the social pressure to stay and no income... Hugs to the Janelle of that day. You really have overcome!
I too am praying for you to have a long time with Jeff!
Yes, it is, and many people become frustrated with women who return again and again to abusers because they have children and no one to help them break free. When you srart out at 17 in that mess it is akin to Stockholm like mentality and the abuser slowly brainwashes you to pity them. I was lucky I learned as I aged how to network. I credit the computer and my online friends a lot who helped me see my value and encouraged me to go. as well as one who offered to kennel Sasha for a month while I transitioned because I wouldnt leave her behind. He was an online boss of a mortgage refinance company. We can find a way if we fight for it. Thanks for being so supportive. Hugs.
hugs right back to you. You nailed it! support is so important and so many people are not getting it and end up in awful situations. I think even many an abuser wouldn't be one if they had more support in their own life - mind you, some are just bad and are enjoying the power trip, but some are just acting out their own frustration with life.
So much despair all around us and I wish I could help everyone!!
Hugs right back to you :)
I agree with you. The cycle rarely begins with the individual abusers. The true intent becomes apparent after years of having learned of the damage to the family, yet resisting any change to restore.