Massive hugs (and perhaps a stiff drink - even if it's strong tea) to you @byn. Don't ever forget that what was done to you does not define you. Face the mirror, no matter how much it hurts and scares you, and tell yourself whatever you want to yell. Those that didn't listen, that didn't move, that didn't want to 'butt in' failed you but, they aren't the world. They are small and in your past. Your power now, from within, is stronger than theirs. You've created what they couldn't. A loving family. Friendships and trust and a woman who isn't weak enough to simply lie down and wallow.
(And, if this is too forward, a woman who's strong enough to tell me to go fly a kite. 😄)