Thank you for such a kind, thoughtful, timely comment. I agree, meaningful conversation is more fulfilling and "safer" in some ways, because it doesn't tend to be as tangled in shame and regret.

I have women friends, and I have ex lovers. Those two lists are nearly exclusive. How can that be?

I don't know, but I think that's a common theme for people, and a really good point to remember. Hopefully meaningful conversation AND great sex are combined for us all. ;)