I feel you brother. The best advice I can give you is to not make excuses. Every excuse leads to another and that's when you don't do anything for a week, which then becomes two weeks, then a month, etc. So you're exactly right, you have to want it.

Dieting though... I hate that part, hahaha. I need to start dieting. I've gotten to a point where in order to get some abs going on, I have to eat less, and I like eating lots.

There's so many different ways to work out. Find a way that makes sense to you. I like to go for a warrior style workout because of my Maori heritage :D