Again, the requisite to be a feminists is to think men make things harder for women because that would in turn make things easier for themselves. Financial disparities or anything else that relates to female institutionalized regulations can be discussed outside feminism, those are not feminists' topics even if feminists bring them up often. The feminist bit relies on that thought, that men do whatever they say men do on purpose, to hurt them and help themselves, even unconsciously. This way of thought causes that resentment you dislike, but it is this way of thought that is the foundation of feminism.