I have women in my circle of friends who either consciously or unconsciously carry or have carried the desire for a child. Whether this can be explained by their biology or their socialization, I don't know.... I therefore find what women do not say or do not justify interesting and worthy of discussion. ... When you meet women who tell you that "maybe you'll feel differently one day" describes this one probability, one guess or a vague idea of something important. Have you ever felt that?

Perhaps because they experience you as provoked or feel that something is moving you, with which they resonate. As far as you don't see it as invading your privacy but as an identity of women: Does that change your indignation that it's nobody's business?

For me, it was more the reverse comments, because really none could imagine that I would one day become a mother. I was probably the least of them all.

Has anyone ever asked you from the bottom of her heart if you could imagine being a mother and how deeply and for how long have you given in to this question? Once you ignore everything that seems outrageous to you, does that change anything? I have found that the women who chose not to have children (either consciously or never really thought about it) were sad or had a feeling of loss to deal with in hindsight.
Which I don't mind at all. Just a matter of womanhood. In my society, such fundamental questions are usually overlooked very quickly and they are not treated spiritually enough... but that's just my position...
The way I see it: we are women. And why should we not go very deep into ourselves and ask ourselves - and others - about this question? Simply because we're the ones who have kids.

I do not know many women who revealed themselves saying, "I have decided against having children because I have found something in life that expresses the same creative power as the birth of a baby.

In a birth - if it goes well - several things happen simultaneously: the creative combines with the physical. The desire of women to experience this (inexplicable) is human, I think. Even though some of the speeches were clumsy. Which I attribute to the fact that we hardly have any language for it in this economized world and therefore do not deal with it very eloquently. So I come back to your suggestion to describe this concept of the biological clock as unfortunate and rather to replace it with something more positive and less defensive. Perhaps that the act of childbirth and the lifelong task as parents can be the final exit from one's own childhood and contributes a lot to seeing one's own parents with different eyes. It's a generation present. One might ask: How do you think about the generational gift and consider it for yourself? If so, why? If not, why not?

Good, your hint that non-parents can also take on parental and adult duties. My brother, who is the only one in the family who has no children, has taken an enormous number of children from his environment under his wing and takes very good care of his nieces and nephews. As siblings we are even quite happy about it, because he has completely different capacities than that of parents.

I think your being hit by criticism - if you let out the insulting thing about it - is often an indication (albeit a painful one) that something still needs to be processed. ...

In retrospective, I WISH that someone would have asked this serious question and that my decision WOULD have been made by me after a serious contemplative time. So taking the decision as being made in a way which lifts the unconscious to the conscious in a needed way. As this actually does not take place from where I am, the clumsy and unfortunate questions must serve the purpose ...