You bring up good points. I personally stay away from "isms" because they are usually politically exploited for some underlying agenda. For me its about giving everybody the respect and freedom to be and do what they want to do, and what expresses best who they truly are. A lot of that should be common sense. I have come across the type of feminist, who justifies behaviors for women, that would be harshly criticized in men. That is not just. I also do not think that women are better people and deserve special treatment. Yes, women should have the right to decide about their bodies and lives...it's almost absurd, that this needs discussion, but now look at this:
I know women who vote for Hillary Clinton, because she is a woman. We shouldn't vote for someone because their sex because it is sexist. She is a total psychopath with a long trail of crimes committed...why is that ok? Because she is a woman and claims to be a feminist? A guy would be under massive scrutiny by now. If you are a man and you wage war and destroy countries for profit and kill innocent people, you are a neocon warmonger. If you are a woman all that doesn't matter?
I have a lot of lovely woman friends but I also have experienced a lot of really cruel, fucked up shit done by women and still wonder what this"sisterhood" is all about, that's being referred to in feminist circles. So, anyhow, back to respect and freedom for all people as long as it doesn't hurt no one else. That way, we have less division and more dialogue and maybe we can look at some of the real shit we are in. Common sense!
By the way...I am a woman.