I'm glad to hear an update about what is going on with you and so glad your SIL is there to help you and on your side. It has to be troubling to always be on your guard and worried about when they might come. That would drive anyone crazy. Hang in there! I hope they will allow her at the meeting. The idea of them questioning the kids in private to fill out a booklet is insane. Hopefully you can get that recorded as well. I don't know how it is in Ireland, but in the US, they believe any kid at any age who makes a claim...even a crazy, unjustified one.