Good point, in my case there was allready a report from the police to cps because of the violence, eventhough they did not do anything to help me. They told me (police ) that if someone had called them or heard something I could have gone to the shelter with the kids but the difference would have been that my case was stronger. So in my case it really would have helped. But talking to the neighbor first maybe the next day so she can make the decission on what to do, would be better I guess. I will take this advice and change it a bit later. Because of course not every situation is the same .. thanks for your input!