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RE: Critique of Critique
Does this mean, that you always start from a position of distrust in the first place when you meet someone new? That a person, you interact with does first have to earn your trust?
Isn't it more the other way around? You trust someone until he or she betrays or makes it difficult to maintain the given trust? Isn't at least law pointing in this direction? Someone remains innocent until it's proven otherwise?
What kind of misconduct are you referring to?
We size people up and decide (usually subconsciously) how much faith-trust-time-resources we're willing to risk on them. And then we "roll-the-dice". Just a note here, a good con-artist will give a rube at least 2 solid "wins" (sometimes 3) before pulling the rug out from under them.
Some people are instantly repulsive. Some people are instantly boring. Some people are instantly fascinating. Some people seem like they might be interesting if you get to know them better.
Is this "prejudice" or "guilty until proven innocent"?
You don't have enough time to interact with everyone in the entire world (actually humans have evolved to be able to maintain a maximum of about 150 human relationships at once, which just happens to be the typical size of an ancient village or tribe).
And (I'm trying to put this as gently as possible) "the law" most certainly treats the accused as guilty before trial (and the poorer you are the guiltier it treats you).
I come from a corner of fairness here. Less, of past unfairness. My question is more of a fundamental nature. You meet a woman, fall in love... you get a new colleague at work, you go to a party and meet all sorts of people. and so on. - Do you always distrust them at first? That was the question. You can also understand the more reserved, wait-and-see way as a kind of trust, where you first try to get an unbiased picture.
Please be more specific.
you said:
That sounded as if trusting in the first place is nothing sensible to do. I wanted to know what kind of misconduct (con) you mean.
Click to watch 38 seconds,
I could barely follow. So I cannot give any response to that. My English is quite okay but listening to a heavy tongue I get into trouble. :)
First speaker: "I'm making it out here without a team. This is what you're not understanding. You all keep screaming team, at the end of the day, when I go to sleep by myself, I got me. And these clothes, shoes, anything, support, I get it because I believed in me. You all keep screaming team, I never had a team. It's not going to make any difference, and I've got sixteen years of life, bro, without a team. And I'm going to make it fifty five more! I don't believe in friendship, I don't believe in trust. I don't even trust my own mother, I don't trust my own brothers."
Second speaker: "Can you allow somebody to help build that trust with you though?"
First speaker: "No. My trust was gone when my father and my grandmother died."