I like this discussion, thanks for sharing it with us. I agree that PC ness - like all manners - was created out of respect and I appreciate that. However, I also completely agree that what's behind it matters more than anything. If I am interested and curious and respectful but say something offensive without intending to, it's very different than if I mean to or just don't care enough to find out how someone else feels. And AMEN to

We all eat and sleep and shit and cry and want to feel loved ... far more in common than different.