SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY EPISODE 7

It's another beautiful Saturday night and yes we are here live and direct reaching you from @zizymena's blog and bringing to the blockchain another amazing episode of your favourite show, SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY. It's been seven amazing weeks and we are going strong. Last week on the show, we talked about Assumption, if you missed it then you honestly need to read up as there are lots of lessons to be learnt on the show. To you all, my beautiful audience I say a very warm welcome. You have been wonderful and i expect nothing less on this show. Without much ado, let's get the show rolling.

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RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

New relationships always have new challenges. It could be a problem of trust, fear or even a problem of an ex rearing his/her ugly head. Feelings can linger after a breakup and these feelings can mess up ones ability to work and be productive or move on and focus on other relationships. Although not getting over an ex is a common problem faced by both men and women, it is however a bigger problem for men than for women. Men are seen as strong when there is a break up but in reality, men are as emotional as women. Men struggle for longer letting an ex go after a breakup. An ex showing up is always a deal breaker. Before you burst into tears and start planning on how to dump him, be sure he is really not into his ex.

HOW TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER IS NOT OVER HIS EX.

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1. He is always talking about her. Talking about an ex is not really a problem but the frequency of the ex popping up in every conversation is a cause for concern. When your boyfriend talks about his ex, how is his facial expression? Does he talk about her with so much idealization and fondness? If your boyfriend is constantly blaming himself for the breakup then chances are that he is still having residual feelings for her and even possibly emotionally attached.

2. He is always checking up on her on social media. If your boyfriend still visits his ex's social media page or handles, stalking her and keeping himself updated with recent happenings then it is a clear sign that he is not over her. I am not saying you should snoop on your man but it will be wise to clear all doubts and not make assumptions.

3. He is usually not himself whenever he bumps into her. It is very important you observe his behavioural pattern whenever he bumps into his ex. Does he suddenly look guilty and want to create a distance between both of you or he is suddenly clingy showing some much PDA (Public Display of Affection)? If he becomes fidgety with sweaty palms and heart racing and in a hurry to leave the surrounding then chances are she is definitely running marathon in his mind behind your back.

4. He still organizes secret meetings. It is highly impossible for exes to become sexless. Maybe they have broken up over decades and so have burned whatever sexual attraction they had for each other but definitely not a recent breakup. Spending time together rekindles old flames. If your boyfriend still hangs out with his ex or she visits him and they spend time alone, you need to put on the garment of worry.

5. He is always at her service. If your boyfriend is always available to serve as a handyman to his ex or as her chaffuer then he is definitely trying to stay in her good books for a reason. Does he up and go whenever she calls? Only a guy who is still in love will constantly want to help an ex out with her life.

6. He still has her souvenirs. Its been months after the break up but he still uses the things she gave to him and all her text messages are still on his phone. Chances are, he is not over her. This is a tricky place to be because he has not ended the relationship yet in his mind. If a guy is over a lady, her picture should be replaced by yours. Nothing wrong with keeping a gift from an ex but do not treat it like it is a momento

Being in a competition with an ex-girlfriend is never easy as it leaves you with so much insecurity and loss of control. Only a man can decide to stop talking to his ex and focus on his new relationship. Trying to forbid him from talking to his ex is fighting a losing battle. Now how do you handle this situation?

WHAT TO DO

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1. Control your jealousy: It is normal to feel jealous when you discover your man is still dropping over his ex but you need to keep it in check. Do not hide the fact that you are bothered or insecure but before you react, reflect on what your rational response should be. Remember if you allow yourself to react on irrational insecurity, it may cause irreparable damage to your relationship.

2. Never bitch about his ex: Talking about his ex always is constantly reminding him of her and this won't help your relationship. When he is reminded of her, it puts him in a fix of wanting to check up on her. Try your best never to bring her up except it is absolutely necessary.

3. Create memories: He is always talking about her and venting about the things she never wanted to do with him. Use this information to your advantage and create memories. It is a waste of time comparing yourself with his ex-girlfriend. Concentrate on your relationship. Spend time a lot outdoor and do stuffs together. Hangout at the gym, go see a movie, anything but just keep him preoccupied.

4. Seduce him subtly: Seduce him from a distance and unleash your teasing and sensous side to make him come towards you. Let him know in a subtle manner that you are way hotter and attractive than any of his past girlfriends combined. In no time you will see him gravitating towards you.

5. Voice out: Let him know how you feel when he talks about his ex and makes it obvious he isn't over her. Ask him exactly how he feels about his ex and whether he truly believes he can have a loving, meaningful relationship with you regardless of these feelings. Honesty, trust and respect are all factors of a healthy relationship. If he is not ready to make a conscious effort then you must decide if this is what you want or not.

Truth is, it is only your boyfriend that can help himself get over an ex. You can only try to assist him for that and make efforts to strengthen your relationship. While doing so, do not sacrifice your joy and happiness in waiting for a person who is not ready to be with you or someone who is thinking of ways to get back with his ex. You should know when to let go.

Are you interested in knowing more, check out the references
13 signs your boyfriend isn't over his ex
11 signs he is using you to get over an ex

DATING TIPS:

Always speak about how you feel and never be sorry for being real. Relationships include: fights, jealousy, arguments, and tears. But a real relationship helps fight through all of those with love.

FUN CORNER (Just For Laughs)

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If sex has last seen like WhatsApp, what will your status read?

DEAR ZIZY

ANONYMOUS 1
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Hi everybody. please I need solution. I don't stay in same state with my fiancée, I tried calling his phone I was getting network busy then checked him on whatsup I could not see his display picture, that was when I knew he has blocked me. I then used my other line to check his whatsaap and lo and behold I saw a pix of him and a girl. He later called me after two days and lied that he travelled to the village and network has been bad. I told him he is lying that he has been online since two days but he denied it, I then sent him a chat with my other line. he started apologizing saying is d devil work. that he don't want me to leave. What do I do?

ANONYMOUS 2
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Hi Zizy, you are doing a great job helping people mend relationship issues but mine isn't a relationship problem. There is this girl, she was my junior in secondary school, and we live in the same town in South West. We met few months ago on Facebook, we became friends and fell in love and now we are dating. She is a student of one of the universities in the south-south region. The problem is she is still in touch with her ex. The guy is a native of the town where she schools and he is an alumni of the school. Although she claims they are just friends now but my investigation showed she sleeps in his house often. The guy lives with his cousin. I am not comfortable but I don't want to appear jealous. Please how do I handle this issue?

ANONYMOUS 3
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Hi please help me, it's not like I am jealous but my girlfriend is always replying other guys on group chat with words like thanks my love, how are you sweetheart. I told her I am not understanding and since them she has refused to reply my chats. I don't understand. What did I do wrong?

FEEDBACK FROM EPISODE 5

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Thank you so much Zizy, I sat her down and made her understand I am not ready to defile myself but I love her and I want us to build a beautiful relationship. She still insisted that if no sex then we should break up. I heed to your advice and I granted her wish. Thank you everyone for the advice. Although I miss her but I believe it is the best like you all advised.

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesnt penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other peoples comment too? It's always fun interacting.

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I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

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