@zizymena you deserve all the commendation coming your way, this is really interesting and thought provoking. Now to the lady: please pray to God for a man that will make you happy for the rest of your life. If you get your ex back you are essentially ruining someone elses' marriage. Please put the 30K to good use.

As for the guy: well you are the new 'Father Easter'. Leave the poor girl to enjoy the dividends of your preposterous generosity.