Unnecessary prohibitions: how parents spoil the lives of their children

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Why do parents constantly reproach their children for disobedience? Why are children prohibited from having fun, exploring the world and making noise in public places?

SourceAll our problems come from childhood. Our parents did not pay attention, or someone suffered from their surplus. And, of course, the permanent prohibitions.

What is the ideal world for parents? The world in which children do not have tantrums, eat well, recite verses, read sonnets and never interrupt adults.

Ideal children always and everywhere behave culturally. In the clinics, in the stores, in the public transport and only in the street, the child should not make noise. And no matter how old you are, this rule applies even to two-year-olds. Well, if the child allows a joke, it should be lifted and punished abruptly. And it turns out that we will stop our children for any reason, regardless of whether they interfere with someone in fact or not.

And if Mom does not scream and does not make harsh comments, then she is a bad mother. She is a worthless mother who can not even face her son.

SourceEspecially among the elderly who, as a child, plus a couple of wooden toys and a plastic doll had no joy. Does the child want to go into the closet and see what's up? Rattle with spoons and pans or open the washing machine door and see what's hidden inside. Parents, as a rule, try to protect a child from such investigations, without thinking that they are destroying their desire for knowledge, ruining the thirst for investigation. When trying to learn something new, young children can be incredibly stubborn. But parents who try to protect their children from everything in the world are no less stubborn. And at some point, the child will begin to realize that all his attempts are useless and will stop striving for new discoveries.

And the child should always greet and smile especially with the people with whom their relatives speak. It does not matter that the baby is only one year old, he should smile at the aunt with whom his mother speaks.
Non-communicative and impolite children only dishonor their mothers!

Ideally, children should be calmer than water, under the grass. A child who cries in a clinic is embarrassing, a child who runs between the shelves of a store is wild, a child who shouts on a plane is simply inappropriate, and if you came to a restaurant and the child did a tantrum, it is usually unacceptable.

Almost all prohibit children, trying to push them within certain frames, beyond which it is impossible to leave.

SourceMost parents forbid their children from jumping, running and jumping to the floor in public, even at home, because at any moment a neighbor comes from below and tells his mother what he thinks about his parenting methods. The prohibitions every day are more and more. And, apparently, mothers do it with the best of intentions, they want to raise their children in an intelligent and educated way, but they do not appreciate it at all.

Over time, children who are forbidden to everyone, become correct and comfortable. Only when they stop being children, are invariably waiting for disorders and nervous problems in their own families.

Source of information:

https://jesus-maria.org/asuncion/wp-content/uploads/sites/9/2016/01/Educar.pdf
https://www.guiainfantil.com/educacion/conducta/el-error-de-prohibir-demasiado-a-los-hijos/

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Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://roseri.vornix.blog/2019/05/30/unnecessary-prohibitions-how-parents-spoil-the-lives-of-their-children/

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